|... by UmmNuh
... don't you find it a challenge to communicate your feelings about such things as modesty in dress and ritual purity to some "feminists?" For me, it generally comes back to "equal is not necessarily identical." I don't want to be treated like a man, because I'm a woman.
Amen! It's one of the ironies that I feel so much freer covering up than I did when I was always looking for new ways to expose
|... WHY do you cover? Is it by commandment?
Well, I'll tell ya', it's a story. It is a question about whether it's a commandment or a custom that's gained the force of a commandment. But one thing I know is very religious people do not necessarily cover their hair entirely, and different communities have different customs. Our community is ... well, open, and I really had a lot of issues to work through I thought, before I could make a commitment to cover . I felt it was more a personal question than a halakhic (Jewish law) question.
So before I got married, DH-to-be said that he would leave the decision whether or not I'd cover my hair entirely up to me, and he wouldn't pressure me either way. Very nice. So I thought about it and read about itand talked to religious people who cover completely, ...who cover partially (hats), who cover twice (wigs and scarves/hats), who don't cover at all ... anyway, wedding time came and I still had not idea if I was going to cover my hair.
Now, as a relevant background aside, before I followed G-d and my religion, I followed Jerry Garcia and the Grateful Dead
... and through that, had amassed a large collection of very psychedelic scarves (concert toys ... don't ask). Anyway, in my thinking about haircovering, I thought I would probably wear scarves, if I did decide to cover, just because they were more my personality.
Now back to our story. Day before my wedding I was in a hotel room with my parents, and the "New York Post" newspaper was there. Now, I never read that paper, but hey, it's there, so I was leafing through it. And stopped at a page with a little blurb about Jerry Garcia, with the information that a line of scarves for women bearing his artwork was to go on sale for the first time in NYC on my wedding day, at a store two blocks from where my wedding was to be ...
There's a term called hashgakha pratis, the belief that G-d is interested in the little details, so to speak, that your every thought and action is all intertwined with the Divine.
I took that little blurb in this newspaper as being put in front of my eyes on purpose. And I began covering my hair with my psychedelic scarves. And bought a few of Jerry's, too