Mryhmaid - I will look that book up at Amazon and maybe add it to my very looooong wish list!
It never ceases to amaze me that when faced with choosing between opposing interpretations of a Biblical text, so many Christians will choose the most punitive, most controling, most unhealthy of the 2 options. Why do we do this? If we judged an interpretation by how well it conforms to to teachings of Jesus, we would choose what is forgiving, gentle, kind, responsible and healthy.
We ought to measure every value we choose against the standard of Love. We as Christians ought to ask, Does this belief/interpretation/action demonstrate love to my neighbor and to God? If not, we need to re-examine it!
Mryhmaid -- I am sorry for you, myself, and every child to whom my precious faith has been an excuse to inflict hurt.