I am having a problem with attending liturgy conflicting with our AP parenting style. Herre is the typical situation.
I go to church on my own with one or two children. As we all know the Orthodox liturgy is very long, so my deal with the kids is, "as soon as you want to leave, we leave." (AP concept #1) Usually they last about an hour, which I think is great, but the problem is we often have to skulk out at sometimes not the best parts of the liturgy to enter or exit. I never leave iwhen the gospel is being read or the gifts are being brought through the sanctuary, or during the creed or the Our Father, or when the priest is facing the congregation, but there are times where we get a lot of "looks" when we leave.
My kids do not like the Sunday School which is in a different, next-door building. They want to "stay with mama." I've encourage them to go to the Sunday school but they want nothing to do with it, and I respect that feeling (AP concept # 2).
Well people at the church don't understand why I don't just stick them in the Sunday school. They're not mean about it, but I'm tired of all the "looks" and well-meaning (i think) comments we get.
So, do you think I should 1) just continue as we've been doing it, and ignore the "looks," or 2) do I tell the kids they have to go to the Sunday school, because it is too disruptive to abruptly leave when they have had enough? Or 3) do I tell them they have to tough it out for the whole liturgy (which I really don't want to "make" them do, I want them to enjoy it and not force anything on them)? Or do I 4) leave them at home?
how do you handle it??? thanks!!!
PS any non Orthodox Christian mothers, if you have ideas I would appreciate it too!