It is so hard for us to get to the temple too. Michael does well with a sitter now that he is 4. Our problem now is that the sitter has to be able to cope with his allergies. That usually means someone without children b/c of the level of his sensitivity. Also, no perfume or scented stuff in the house. When he was younger we only went when a grandparent could watch him. Lately it has still been that way. As we are getting settled into our new area, we are looking for possible sitters.
As for suggestions:
I find peace taking my son to the temple and walking around the grounds. He has the most amazing things to say about his thoughts on religion. And I think having a place to sit and reflect so close to the Lord can bring peace.
Also, the purpose of the temple is to give all a chance to return to Heavenly Father's presence. It isn't easy I know, but could you do some geneaology? Bits and pieces here and there. During naps or nursing, etc. That way, when you do get a chance to go to the temple, you have names that have personal meaning to you. And I know our yw/m appreciate have names to take for baptisms.
Whatever you decide works for you, remember that you are doing the Lord's work by being the best mom you can be. There are so many things that are important, and we can't do all of them at once. How many people do you truly know who have 72 hr kits for all, a years supply that is ready to go, serve perfectly in all their callings, have the geneaology done, attend the temple monthly *AND* everything else we are supposed to do? We do need to strive to follow the Lord and what he wants us to do, but he doesn't want us to have a nervous breakdown in the process.
Momnlovit is right, when we honestly try our best to keep the commandments, we are blessed.
Re: Mollie's post. I um, need to e-mail you again Mollie