So, Amy, Mom2six, you pretty much nosedive into the culture of your surrounding religious group?
Our mosque actually handed Eid gifts out, wrapped and everything, to each and every kid this year. SOme newer members are converts, many recent
, and even a family with small children. They realize they are going to have to get our activities to hold their own in an environment where kids go back to school and compare piles of presents. I was really pleased with the effort. At home, we had our special meal, and we dressed in our best clothes, and we bought ds a present. Didn't have to do too much, though, with his age. Next year, I'll have to get small gifts for each of us, and wrap them, I guess. Maybe we'll do our own family thing--like a candlelit meal or something special. Put up banners, maybe. I have a year to think on it.
For Eid-ul-Adha we'll do something similar, but perhaps cook out. (Yes, in WI in February...we're hearty people...)
It seems, the more I read of your posts, that the example is truly key. Be positive and enthusiastic, and don't deny what's going on, but talk about it, and what it refers to and means, and WHY you don't do it, and what you DO participate in...I used to think it was going to have to be ugly.
OH! Sort of off topic, but my holiday card from Mom said something like "Thank you for sharing Christmas with us. It's G-d's plan for us all to be different. Sharing and understanding is love. We are blessed to have each other..."
Yup...things are changing, by the grace of our Creator!