I've never even looked at this from that angle, Arduinna. My dh finally has a job where he and I can attend a Christmas Party and I'm a bit excited. It's on the 21st and it's my understanding that that's the Solstice, but I don't see how attending will completley ruin plans for the evening or the next morning. Of course, if our kids can't attend,we won't be going anyway.
Hope you feel better abt this soon. Follow your heart, not public protocol.