Richard feels very connected to this church. It was the church he attended as a boy. We moved to this area because he found a job here. It's where he came to visit his grandparents as a boy. We bought his grandparent's house from his dad--he and his brother's growth as kids is measured on the door to the living room. I think considering all that, he feels like attending that church is the fulfillment of some sort of destiny.
The best I've gotten from him is an offer to go to a church of my choosing in exchange for me going to church with him. A one to one trade.
We had this big conversation last night, and for once I made it through it civil, no tears, if still frustrated with his stance. It centered around this question: If one accepts Christ as savior and follows his teachings, why should all the minutia matter?--baptism this way or that, God as one or God as three, saved by faith or good work? He's so hung up on it that he feels that other christian churches are "false prophets." Ugh, gag me!!! I'm thinking (maybe for today) I can deal with it, tough it out. Who knows, he might chill out, if not completely recant, some day. He could be a real ***hole before, verbally. That doesn't come out much anymore. He definitely seems dulled as a biproduct of all this. He got his hair cut short. (My karma was in bad shape because I'm always joshing Joy about her hair obsession.
: ) He seems really square to me. I'm wondering how I'm going to get past that. I've had to do some soul-searching about how much of my attraction to him is tyed up in his image.
BTW I'm thankful for this outlet, as I can't afford therapy.