Being religious now, we feel the need to have our vows "validated" (Church term, not mine).
We are planning to have a ceremony at the Church this year on our 7th anniversary - in December.
Originally, we planned a big old to-do with the standard American stuff (white dress, flowers, photographer, reception with a first dance, etc.)
Now, we are realizing that money would be better put toward a downpayment for a home - and that it is not what is important about having the ceremony. Family has suggested a restaurant dinner after the ceremony - so that we can celebrate without the expense (they all want to pay for themselves). So, I'm not sure what's going to happen with the whole reception thing.
That aside - I want it to be more WHO we are and what we embrace in our lives. We are vegetarians, Christians, cloth-diapering, co-sleeping, breastfeeding, recycling, wannabe minimalists.
How can we incorporate this into a wedding ceremony?
So far, I know I want to use recycled paper products for the invitations and the wildflower seed embedded paper, especially.
What can I make, if possible - what should I wear, what should we do?
Thanks for ANY and all advice!!!
it's entirely possible to keep it low key, have people from the church help out, and have a great ceremony. what my friends wore: one found a really cool pink flowy dress at a thrift shop. the other, a seamstress, made a beautiful hippy dress for herself and her daughter. i found a nontraditional wedding dress (simple simple simple) at a thrift shop too.
just some ideas! good luck and congrats, whatever you do! , christi
Instead of an expensive and stuffy sit down dinner- what about a potluck in the park, or a backyard?
For the place gifts, we bought seeds and small terra cotta pots, I started the seeds a few weeks before the wedding so that they were starting to sprout. I tied each pot with raffia and attatched a small hand made tag that said "As our love grows and blooms- so may this gift"
Instead of a DJ, have musician friends be the entertainment. If you don't have any, see if there is a local community or high school or college band that woudl be willing to perform for a small fee.
Use flowers from friends and families gardens, and write your own vows.
Good luck- and be sure to tell us all about it!
Oh yeah - at BIL and SIL wedding the bouquet was made of herbs and they used it to make thier first meal as a married couple.
My dd wants us to "get maried again" so that she can come to the wedding. I think that would be fun.
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
1. We held it outside - we couldn't have had a prettier location and outside felt right for us. Neither of us are attached to any church, even though we did have a minister perform the interfaith ceremony.
2. Music - We are huge bluegrass fans, and has a fiddle and a banjo be our ceremony instruments. They played a bluegrass and traditional music for the processional/recessional.
3. Ceremony - We had a Nerudareadings and a friend composed a song for us. This made it so special. We also combined Jewish and Christian elements and the two of us with the minister pretty much "wrote" the ceremony.
I like all the other ideas. I would just personalize the wedding as much as possible. It will be even more special that way!
We were married at the Fairgrounds near where I grew up. (It's a beautiful spot on a lake with these huge pine trees.) I wore a simple white bridal gown which was my favorite of ALL the dresses I tried on but only cost me about $150. I made a beaded crown thing for my hair and went barefoot. DH bought a plain black suit. My bridesmaids each wore a black dress of their choosing and bright colored thong sandals (my wedding "colors" were shades of the sunset: red, orange, pink, yellow...). The groomsmen wore a black suit of their choosing and skate shoes. Our invitations said "BYOLC: Bring your own lawn chair" so everyone brought their own chair and we had just sort of outlined where they should sit. We hired students of my violin teacher for about $200, a violinist, a violist and a cellist, all in high school, but they did a great job. A lady I know who makes cakes out of her home made our cake and we served that with lemonade and fresh fruit. My dad is a musician so I have a large "family" of musicians and I invited them all to bring their instruments so after the ceremony they had a little jam session. I had a lady from town who does photography as a hobby take 6 rolls of film and then she gave them to me to have developed and reproduced as I chose. For favors I made origami lilies (my favorite flower) in the sunset shades and had them "planted in huge terra cotta pots for guests to pick. Our wedding was very inexpensive, but very *us* and we had a great time!!! A lot of people who were there have told my parents and ILs since that it was the coolest wedding they'd been to because it was so relaxed and fun.
ETA: jerawo: Our musician friends and family play bluegrass so that's what the jam session was. I love bluegrass!
It was held outdoors, at a good friends' (the pastor's) home. They have a lot of land, and the ceremony was held right up at the lake, and there were beautiful trees and flowers. The best thing about having our wedding outdoors was the birds, butterflys, dragonflys, and other wild life.
I wore a really "me" rennissance (sp?) dress. It was white, which I wasn't crazy about, but I was 8 months pregnant so I think that made the statement we were looking for. I got a really great deal on the dress, too.
I wore my hair up, in a french braid that wraped around my head (ok, that sounds weird,) and baby's breath in my hair. My jewlry was great, too, but it would take all night talking about that!
Dh wore black pants and a renn'ish white shirt, and a full length black velvet cape! He looked so amazing!
Our maid of honor and I went to my favorite "hippy" shoppe and picked out the most beautiful deep purple (her favorite colour) embordered (sp) dress. I think it only cost about $40
The best man just wore black pants, white shirt, black tie.
We didn't want to have chairs, so, we didn't! I figured, that if I could stand there, 8 months pregnant, so could they!
My SIL (brother's wife) did the flowers for me, she's such a sweetie!
My brother (my family are all excellent musicians) played guitar for the ceremony, my other brother played a special song for us. (Good riddince, by greenday) It was so moving!
We just had a simple cake and punch reception there. The cake was made by a good friend of the family, and the punch my little sisters and mother made.
Dh's brother played a little guitar during the reception. His father, sat in hiw car and listened to the baseball game But that issue needs a thread of it's own!
I loved our wedding, but if I were doing it again I would elope. The stress was unbarable!
|Originally posted by Mariposa
for me, crunchy = outside. you can always have your preacher, priest, whoever preside over an outdoor wedding.
Edited to add:
I think it is going to me a small evening ceremony and we'd like to incorporate the kids in the ceremony. If all goes as planned, I'll be around 5-6 months pregnant, too.
But, I'd like your help. Mothering is SO who I am today - I want to incorporate some of MDC into the ceremony. I was thinking that some of you crafty mamas could come up with something.
If you have an idea that's cost prohibitive for you, but you'd like to contribute () I could probably pay for the supplies.
Paper making? Candle making? Bead making? Dried flower garland headbands for the girls? Gosh - I don't know??? It would mean SOOO much to me to have you here in spirit!!!!
In addition to some of what's already been mentioned (outdoor wedding, inexpensive/casual clothing, elaborately braided hair rather than veil/headdress, hiring local musicians) ... a dear friend of mine donated his time to arrange all our flowers, which we bought in bulk from a local farmer who regularly sells at our farmer's market! Our centerpieces were arranged in clay pots (which I was originally supposed to get back for future planting, but which we ended up giving as gifts to some key guests) ... our only attendants were DH's youngest nieces (we had no children between us), and I asked their crafty mom to dress them in anything blue and yellow (she made them adorable matching dresses) ...
gotta go for now, but if i think of more, i'll post it later.
We're thinking of somehow renewing our vows once again because we are actually no longer religious, and the whole reason we got married in the first place was for religious reasons. I feel a need to reaffirm that we love each other, even without the religion. I would do the same thing for a dress this time -- buy something I couldn't normally afford but that I could wear over again.
She had an outside ceremony and her bridesmaids wore off the rack regular dresses.
We ordered party platters, hired two women to help us serve and clean up, had her friend bartend and DJ.
We were told the food was the best wedding food ever and the ceremony was a little mixture of fun and elegent.
Here are some pics http://www.shutterfly.com/osi.jsp?i=...21b30680c6e4cd
momschooling, I would love to make a wedding album for you. I cover photo albums in fabric, I promise to make it beautiful for you.
I would love to renew our vows, this year (in June) will be our 5th anniversary, hard to believe it's been that long. Our wedding was small and cheap, we had no money
for our reception we had a backyard BBQ, which is totally our style. If I had to do it over again I would do it in a park, wear a beautiful flowing dress and be barefoot. I would have wild flowers for my bouquet, and release butterflies instead of have bird seed thrown for us.
Ah, to dream
I have been thinking about you a lot the last few days. I woudl love to conntribute something to your wedding, and I am fairly crafty, but I just can't think of anything yet.
I am just absolutely beaming!!!
You all are such s for offering so many wonderful ideas and kind words.
And, for all of you who would like to make something, I cannot tell you how much that truly touches me!!!
Maybe I'm just feeling hormonal but, - this means SO much!!!!!
The night before the wedding, my sisters and I got together at Mom's house and we made most of the food. It was a great time for us to visit and goof around while making all of the family favorites. Grandma baked Italian cookies. We stripped Mom's garden and lilac trees, and even stopped along the way to cut branches from interesting flowering trees along the road for the decorations. There were flowers everywhere, very informal, though I must confess that I am a floral designer so I had an edge. We had the ceremony and reception at a state park and Dad rented the pavilion for us (all stone and half timber, beautiful). Even if you have to have the ceremony inside, maby the reception could be outdoors at a park.
We collected old vases from our relatives and the thrift store and just stuffed them with a wild mix of flowers and set them all over the picnic tables.
Didn't do party favors or any of that, I thought that the people were coming to see the wedding and have a good time at the reception and the nicest momento we could give them was a really good time.
I guess we didn't really focus on any wedding "things", we wanted the attention to be focused on family and friends, good food and wine (being near a ton of wineries made that tasty and cheap).
I wore the same wedding dress which was worn by my mother and my grandmother.
We were married in the Catholic church on 12/30/2000. We didn't pay a cent for church decorations since the church was already decorated beautifully for Christmas.
My bridesmaid (sister) just wore a nice dress, as did my flower girls. The flower girl's mother (my aunt) maid those dresses.
Our best man just wore a nice suit.
DH just wore a nice suit
The ushers just wore nice suites.
Afterwards, we had a reception in the Knights of Columbus Hall which we rented for $100. The reception was a potluck dinner. Everyone brought a dish.
We didn't have a band, but we did play some music from CD's.
We spend a little bit on decorating the Knights of Columbus Hall (I don't know how much).
It was WONDERFUL. We didn't agonize over who to invite, who we could afford to invite, etc. We just invited everyone. It was a wonderful celebration with our family and friends.
We didn't have any of the frills. No limo, no professional photographer (FIL took pictures, he was a decent photographer)
The scenery was beautiful. It just happened to snow about 2 inches on that day.
Everyone said it was a wonderful wedding becuase it was holy and focused on the sacrament and the marriage, not just one big production for one big day.
A couple of snapshots
And I love hearing everyone's ideas! It's so refreshing to hear of simple yet meaningful weddings that really were celebrations of a marriage, wtih a good focus, instead fo making it as extravagant as possible with little or no relevance to the marriage. Just a "dream wedding".
My dream wedding was to elope! But dh didn't agree, and I'm so glad he talked me into a small wedding. It was the best and a great memory to treasure.
I found a WAHM seamstress to make my "dress" (which is actually going to be a pair of straight-leg/flare-leg pants and a long tunic over it with custom embroidery!)
The tunic is a peasant top.
It's going to be so darned cute!!!!! This woman does BEEEAUTIFUL work!
Now, I just need to find something for the kiddos.
We're also in the process of planning our "Familymoon" to Chicago. The girls are SO excited!
We're talking to the priest next month, and hoping that the lodge where we'd like to have the reception will make a decision on renting out the annex to us by next week!
Thanks for all the info - and keep it comin'!
At our wedding dh and I wanted to incorporate our lifestyle as vegetarians and show respect for the earth. We decided instead of giving away favors that are wasteful of earth's resources and get tossed in the trash that we wanted to give away tree seedlings to our guests to plant in honor of our love...
They were a bit pricey ($2.95/seedling) but everyone loved them and I hear a lot of them are thriving!
..and here's a link for more natural ideas. HAVE FUN PLANNING!
So I felt inspired to tell you my wedding story, since I've been lurking along this thread for months. It was so magical for DH and I the night that we *knew* we wanted to be lifemates that honestly, we wanted to keep it all to ourselves. I could go on for hours telling you how painfully inlove we are, after many years together, and what a huge decision it was for both of us. . . We didn't see any reason to include anyone in our wedding since it was such an intimate and powerful thing for us. We found a resort in Estes Park, CO that had a beautiful gazeebo by the river, and a Scottish woman to marry us with a Celtic hand-fastening. We chose the Autumn Equinox and were married alone, by the river, in one of the most beautiful moments in my life. In the end we invited 2 very close friends to take pictures and hold our rings, but that was the extent of it. Our families were completely supportive of not being there, and understood our desire for intimacy. It was a truly special night, especially when we found out that we also conceived that night. No, not out of drunken newleywed sex but as a gift from the heavens to bless our marriage
I can't WAIT to hear about yours! When are you getting married?
ps. I remember earlier you mentioned not being able to get married Cathlic outdoors. Same happened with my friend and her husband who had their hearts set on getting married in the mountians among the aspen trees. They found a pastor that was really cool, and they had to have a "pre" wedding inside a chapel first, and then drove out to the mountains for "their" wedding if that makes sense. That way they were married in the church, but had their wedding outdoors.
Thank you for sharing your story. It's amazing to hear so many lovely "love stories" amongst the people here.
I think that if I had planned for my courthouse wedding to be the *only* one, it could have been lovely. Unfortunately, I did not - and DH and I were not even wearing nice clothes!!!! We just ran down there and got hitched. We didn't even have a ring! (We had NO idea there would be a ring exchange in the courthouse). At the last second our "best man" (You have to have two witnesses) pulled off his keychain, which happened to fit DH's finger. When the judge said "repeat after me - with this ring" at which point I started laughing hysterically. I apologized between my thunderous laughter and she said "that's okay - it's an emotional time - people respond differently to..." I cut her off - "No, I'm laughing because it's a keychain!" :LOL I think most of the people there were giggling.
So, that's the only memorable part of that day for me.
Now that we have renewed our part in the Church, and are raising our children to be Catholic, we understand the importance of entering into this Holy Sacrament.