This might be pointless rambling, but I will TRY to crystallize it into a question, if I can. If I can't, well, thanks for reading my rambling
Ok, dh and I were both raised Catholic, and we both feel we benefitted from being exposed to spirituality in that form early in our lives. (Mostly we both agree we personally benefited from learning from day 1 that you need to take time out to foster your spirituality, give thanks, believe in more than just what you see etc.) We also feel a HUGE HUGE part of why we are thankful we grew up in the church was the sense of community we got from it.
Dh is now pagan, and I consider myself liberal progressive catholic. (I attend masses at a benedictine monastery) We've been co-existing wonderfully like this for 15 years. We have much more in common spiritually than not, we just take the same core beliefs and approach them from different angles. We both are committed to social justice, peace, environmental issues, and living a simple (non wasteful) life. We both feel these issues fall in line completely and wonderfully with our faiths.
The 'problem' now is that we are expecting a baby, and we'd like to meld our spirituality in a more basic way. But, obviously, there are differences that make that difficult! I want to come together as a family, but we don't know how. We talked about dh coming to church with me, and us taking a more active approach to celebrating his holidays, but to me that sounds a little like he's getting the short shrift. ? (there will be no issue to sharing his basic spirituality with our child, as I mentioned we have alot in common - especially when it comes to honoring the earth and being mindful of nature.)
I want to mention, for clarification, that dh considers himself a 'nature pagan', and not a wiccan. He told me that's imporant to say, although sadly I don't completely understand why..? I think he's trying to make the distinction between himself and the pagans who practice magick. ? (Which we have nothing against! It just doesn't come into play here.)
Would a Unitarian Universalist church be for us? Are there any other options you can think of? To summarize, this is what we came up with so far:
1. baby goes to church with me, learns hopefully the basis of community and faith and prayer and all the good things dh and I learned from growing up in the church. Then, at home, baby also learns about Samhain and Lammas and Yule along with dad's beliefs about the universe and nature, and the world. Is this a confusing and weird existence for the little one?
2. we attend the uu church for the community and all that, and also learn about dad's beliefs there.
Did this make any sense? Can anyone add their thoughts? My mind is really reeling, I feel it's so important to plan what we want for this baby as far as spirituality goes, just like I am going nuts collecting a layette and learning about breastfeeding!. Any feedback I can get is greatly appreciated!