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Old 03-16-2007, 12:36 PM
 
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Perhaps Koala and I could arrange a conference call to all of you gathering in Florida, since her & I are not in the vicinity!
Hey I want to be in on that call too!! Unless anyone wants to journey to NY instead? I can offer you snow as the "nor'easter" is coming in tonight.

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I've had the funniest and weidest night EVER.

My DH, who had to be in Tulsa today and again tomarrow, showed up half way through my bottle of Baileys because.......

He thought it was our wedding anniversary and he wanted me to know how much he loved me.

It isn't our anniversary, not even close. But you gotta love a guy who drives 4 hours to say "I love you and I'm glad I married you." And he brought presents, including a stuffed bear that sings "when Irish eyes are smiling." I laughed so hard I cried and I nearly peed my pants.

So we celebrated our not-anniversary by .

I really love the thoughtful card he gave me with the DATE WRITTEN IN. It is so wonderful that I will always have an anniversary card dated with a date that isn't our anniversary.

He has suggested that he get our anniversary tatooed on his arm, but I told him I wasn't comfortable with that because I'm pretty sure he would tell them the wrong date!

I'm having a hard time taking anything in my life seriously at this point.:
Linda~ My dh has ALWAYS had our anniversary date wrong. When we went to an Engaged Encounter before the wedding, he told the priest and everyone there the wrong date, 7/17 instead of 7/16......after much laughter it was recommended he get someone to remind him so he wouldn't miss it!! And almost three years ago, our DD was born on, you guessed it 7/16!! so he'll at least have that to help him remember. I woke him up with "Happy Anniversary, let's go!"


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Popping in quick to say hi!

Hope you all have a great day!

I manifested a quick and easy blood draw for dd w/both ladies that I LOVE. Whew!

NOw we probably won't have to do it again for about 5 months or so. Yipppeee!
Glad your dd's blood draw went well! It's sooo good when that happens.

I'll pop in later too, I'm sure FIVE more pages from now. We have errands to run, I'm sure my girls will BEHAVE in the craft store, and tonight DD and I are going to see ANNIE. "The sun will come out tomorrow, bechur bottom dollar that ,tommorrowww"

(AprylSrissa~going to check the Webster Weggies today I REALLY want to find the peach, maybe its out of season here? We'll have to have our own) get-together someday)
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OK oh wise women - help me process this.

Dh and I have a project deadline this weekend. Last week he picked up the door we need. A nagging voice kept saying "the door is wrong" I pushed it aside with positve thoughts "the door is correct"

Well, yesterday they went to install the door and yep, it's wrong. We are trying to get one overnighted and still make our deadline.

So now I'm kicking myself for not listening to that voice. I've always been very intuitive about those things. (I like to think God give me a heads up on things)

Any advice on how to balance the two?
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Oh whimsy I always go with my instincts... my intuitive nudges I always listen to and I figure in the rare instance they are not correct, I had them for a reason and everything will work out to the greatest good ---

Yes, it is one thing to try to explore our fears or dispel the myths we've held about certain topics and replace those with affirmations or positive perspectives and such and I encourage that --- but when you get that voice, you know "the voice" called intuition, or Spirit, or whatever --- I always listen to that. I have rarely been wrong....

Sending overnight vibes that you get the correct door in the time you need!
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You were called to action, and you chose not to perform that action.

Personally, I would have checked the door. Just because you don't install it right now, doesn't mean, if you're being prompted, that you can't check it out.

I don't remember who, maybe it was Hicks, says that "our biggest problem is not that we're not intuitive, it's that we keep getting in the way of our intuition."

You didn't check the door because you felt you "should" just have faith.

Whenever I feel a "should," I like to check myself. Because "should" almost never feels good, you know?

checking the door would have gotten rid of the worry once and for all- which would feel good. Instead, you chose the "I should just try to be positive about it" which was not a good feeling (I assume? It never is for me, hehe).
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I am manifesting a spectacular weekend!!! I am going to go out to the casino (I hardly ever go out!), and spend quality time with dp. We have friends coming over to visit us, and we are going to paint the kitchen. Woohoo!!

Hope you guys are all manifesting good weekends as well
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OK oh wise women - help me process this.

Dh and I have a project deadline this weekend. Last week he picked up the door we need. A nagging voice kept saying "the door is wrong" I pushed it aside with positve thoughts "the door is correct"

Well, yesterday they went to install the door and yep, it's wrong. We are trying to get one overnighted and still make our deadline.

So now I'm kicking myself for not listening to that voice. I've always been very intuitive about those things. (I like to think God give me a heads up on things)

Any advice on how to balance the two?
There's a place for positive affirmations/intentions where you're focused on manifesting and creating.

Hearing "the door is wrong" is a sign that something is being brought to your attention to be dealt with "right now". It's a clue about something.

Does that help with the difference?
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Of course you ladies are right. It was that pesky "should" I felt like I "should" manifest the correct door when in reality I just needed to follow my Spirit and make sure it was right.

So in reality, the universe was trying to make sure we had the correct door. If I would have followed the promptings it would have been no problem to get the correct one here in time.

So much to learn..... but what a fun path to be on!
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I've tried the walk away from the negativity and I keep going back and feeling like crap.
I walk away all the time now You gotta go with what works for you. If someone is able to put up with the crap without having it affect them then that's fine for them but for me . . . I gotta walk away. And every time I walk away I feel better and stronger! I feel bad for the people who wallow in the crap and love it and live it and feel empowered by smashing other people down but when it comes down to it, that's their choice. I can't save them, I can only save me

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It isn't our anniversary, not even close. But you gotta love a guy who drives 4 hours to say "I love you and I'm glad I married you."
That is just the sweetest, most romantic, funniest story I ever heard! You'll be telling and happily remembering that one for years to come

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This is startling because I want to think for myself and not buy into the myth that we are helpless if things run in families. Beckwith in the Secret says you can break free from cultural codes, family stuff etc.
Maybe think of it in combination with LOA. How about this - genetically, your family shows stress this way. That doesn't mean you are *doomed* to have this issue no matter what you do. That means if you let stress take over, let negative thinking affect you (etc) then this is the issue that will show up for you. That way, you can use it as a sign that you need to take care of yourself more in whatever way you think is necessary instead of taking it as a sign that you are helpless in the face of family history. Does that sit better?

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(in unison) WE'RE ALL INDIVIDUALS!
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So now I'm kicking myself for not listening to that voice. I've always been very intuitive about those things. (I like to think God give me a heads up on things)
Well, what Amris said. Did you check the door? I still check things and go with my gut, I just try not to get fearful about it. And if I do check things (like if the stove is off) and then I start thinking about it again, *that's* when I try and think positive instead. But I still check it the first time and I don't think that's being negative.
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you can use it as a sign that you need to take care of yourself more in whatever way you think is necessary instead of taking it as a sign that you are helpless in the face of family history. Does that sit better?
Yes. Thank you Shannon


This also seems to fit, the idea that it's just an illusion:

(from Amris: )

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wholeness comes from allowing the journey to unfold in its own way, that we must stand strong in our beliefs and go forward, regardless of what spectres we believe have sprung up before us.
The idea that, as Beckwith says, we can "break free from hereditary patterns" is so appealing. I want to have positive interactions with my family rather than grow fearful from their catastrophizing.

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Does anyone else get halfway through the mega-multi-quoted posts, and have to scroll up because you forgot who's post you were reading? I lose track when I keep seeing so many different names in a post.
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I definitely don't think we are "helpless" but I do think things run in families so I guess I'm in the middle somewhere Thinking of it this way makes a lot of sense to me though. And whether you are coming from a purely medical POV or a purely LOA POV, both say that stress and negativity can make things worse and being positive and happy can make things better so yeah, it's all good IMO
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So I posted a few pages back about meeting this man who I believe might be who I've been manifesting in to my life.

Since December I have been writing about about the love I want. I created a beautiful vision board full of symbols of love, partnership, babies, and family. I have been focusing and meditating on this love and partnership with so much love and hope in my heart.

This man is not the first man I've met or had dates with since I started this and I haven't for a moment thought any of them were "him" ya know. But this man... everything feels so in sync on so many levels. I mean, I've been dating for close to two decades and I have never felt so excited about anyone or felt such an unreal sense of connectedness. I am not one too fall easily and the older and wiser I become, the more pragmatic and realistic I've become about dating.

Today I find myself totally freaked out. I feel like I am too excited about this prospect, too hopeful. I am doubting myself and the universe and this man. I feel afraid and overwhelmed.I feel terrified of allowing myself to feel as excited and as hopeful as I do because I am afraid of being let down.

I need help releasing this fear. I need reassurance that I'm not being reckless or overly idealistic about someone I truly hardly know. Can anyone help?
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I definitely don't think we are "helpless" but I do think things run in families so I guess I'm in the middle somewhere Thinking of it this way makes a lot of sense to me though. And whether you are coming from a purely medical POV or a purely LOA POV, both say that stress and negativity can make things worse and being positive and happy can make things better so yeah, it's all good IMO

And the person I am thinking about is the LOA in action when it comes to drama and chaos and maybe the Universe is just trying to remind me of what NOT to do, to offer contrast, I hope! Unfortunately this person has internalized that the way to have energy and attention in life is through chaos, negativity, etc.

not through positive energy, positive achievement, loving oneself and all that good stuff.

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Today I find myself totally freaked out. I feel like I am too excited about this prospect, too hopeful. I am doubting myself and the universe and this man. I feel afraid and overwhelmed.I feel terrified of allowing myself to feel as excited and as hopeful as I do because I am afraid of being let down.

I need help releasing this fear. I need reassurance that I'm not being reckless or overly idealistic about someone I truly hardly know. Can anyone help?
I am so happy and grateful that I have complete trust in myself and the Universe, that all things work to the good for me.



Momtwice:

This is what I would consider. Of course some things run in families. Remember where disease comes from? Patterns of thought.

Does it not make sense that patterns of thought run in families?

So, I would start focusing on myself, and not worry so much about "how am I like that person," and look more at "how am I creating this dis-ease in my body??"

Patterns of thought can be broken. DNA is only carries potentials, not fate, dear.
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I need help releasing this fear. I need reassurance that I'm not being reckless or overly idealistic about someone I truly hardly know. Can anyone help?
Be.

Bring yourself back to the now because now is all we have anyway.

If it feels good right now, then continue to feel that manifest it continuing.

Be.
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Momtwice....

I'm with Amris here.

I don't believe things run in families. I believe we are all capable of manifesting whatever we want.

However, I think similar things do occur in families because issues are passed down generation to generation (if one chooses to take those on) as are eating and exercise beliefs, lifestyle etc.

But....like abuse....YOU CAN STOP THE CYCLE.

You can make choices to heal your past, nurture yourself, be in the moment and love your body.

All is well. My body is in balance. I am healthy & strong. I am unique.
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whimsy....

When I have ignored my inner voice in the past, I have said thank you. Thank you for the reminder of the importance of listening. Thank you for providing the lesson in a way that is manageable and can be easily resolved.

As for the new door...

I am so happy and grateful that the new door can arrive quickly and easily allowing us to meet our deadline.
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Momtwice....

I'm with Amris here.

I don't believe things run in families. I believe we are all capable of manifesting whatever we want.

However, I think similar things do occur in families because issues are passed down generation to generation (if one chooses to take those on) as are eating and exercise beliefs, lifestyle etc.

But....like abuse....YOU CAN STOP THE CYCLE.

You can make choices to heal your past, nurture yourself, be in the moment and love your body.

All is well. My body is in balance. I am healthy & strong. I am unique.

I agree, mostly. I think there can be *predispositions* concerning health but like amris said, you can choose, always and forever, how to approach your situation -- you can take control of and embrace the information you have and empower yourself to make a different choice.

For example, heart disease "runs" in my husband's family. Now I can't say whether it does or doesn't genetically but I do know this -- my husband has a choice -- he can say, gee, every man in my family has had heart attacks, let me just accept that fate and manifest that in myself -- or he can do what he is doing, learn from their patterns, their lifesyles, their attitudes on the subject, embrace what he has learned and create a different pattern and lifestyle and thought and feeling in the way he approaches the situation --- and from that, he is manifesting a different fate -- he eats a vegarian *healthy* fat diet, he runs, he remains positive, keeps a low stress level, gets his yearly physical and doesn't even think about it -- he continues to believe "my heart is healthy and strong and I am grateful for it and take good care of it" -- he doesn't have the *what ifs* because *what ifs* don't prevent anything at all -- and going further, they can even CAUSE and ATTRACT the very thing he is afraid of... basically he does everything positive in his power -- joyfully, not fearfully (which is big too) to manifest health ...

It is similar to the abuse patterns in my family....when I became pregnant I made a choice, a deliberate and unwavering choice of how we were going to raise our daughter, and I manifested that. I healed myself from illness, both mental and physical, and created a new pattern and new future for us.

Even with my weight -- my mom is overweight, I am overweight, I don't believe it is *genetic* I believe it is a thought pattern and a misuse of food but even that I am manifesting change on --- I am still pretty large but that doesn't matter to me so much because once the patterns change and the way of thinking changes, the weight should be easy (imo) -- once I embrace complete love of myself (working on it folks!!) with the intent of having the healthiest body I choose, the weight will be secondary and will right itself, I truly believe that.
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I have identical twin daughters who are now almost 14 (how did that happen?):

It has been fun watching how genetics play in their lives. They cut all of their teeth 1 day apart. All milestones were that way. crawl, walk, sit up (in that order) all one day apart.

OTOH - one of them has epilepsy and the other doesn't. One of them has asthma and the other doesn't.

In discussing this with the pediatric neurologist, he says the believe you inherit the predisposition for certain things. Something still has to happen to "flip the switch"

Lauren epilepsy is the kind associated with genetics. There is no area or orgin in her seizures. But Caitlin has never had a seizure. Lauren has also always been able to communicate with animals so we figure her brain is just more sensitve to electrical impulses.
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Need some help guys. Feeling low after some drama has invaded my life. On top of it I guess pregnant hormones are making me a little weepy about it all.

I lost a group of friends in a negative way about 6 months ago. I am still very hurt and sad about it. I feel I should be further along in the healing process than I am. My therapist says I need to mourn the loss but I for the life of me can't get her to tell me how to do this.

I am ready to move on from this hurt and pain. My life is wonderful and I am happier than I have ever been before.

ugh

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I do this too! I also forget how many posts I want to respond to! lol I probably miss some posts also considering how big this thread becomes. I can only do my best.

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So I posted a few pages back about meeting this man who I believe might be who I've been manifesting in to my life.

Since December I have been writing about about the love I want. I created a beautiful vision board full of symbols of love, partnership, babies, and family. I have been focusing and meditating on this love and partnership with so much love and hope in my heart.

This man is not the first man I've met or had dates with since I started this and I haven't for a moment thought any of them were "him" ya know. But this man... everything feels so in sync on so many levels. I mean, I've been dating for close to two decades and I have never felt so excited about anyone or felt such an unreal sense of connectedness. I am not one too fall easily and the older and wiser I become, the more pragmatic and realistic I've become about dating.

Today I find myself totally freaked out. I feel like I am too excited about this prospect, too hopeful. I am doubting myself and the universe and this man. I feel afraid and overwhelmed.I feel terrified of allowing myself to feel as excited and as hopeful as I do because I am afraid of being let down.

I need help releasing this fear. I need reassurance that I'm not being reckless or overly idealistic about someone I truly hardly know. Can anyone help?
I think the point of this is simply to live in the moment...as someone else said, bring yourself back to now.

What this gives you is a deeper appreciation of what's growing. And "gifts" like this man you may have manifested are wonderful opportunities to simply BE and LIVE.
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Need some help guys. Feeling low after some drama has invaded my life. On top of it I guess pregnant hormones are making me a little weepy about it all.

I lost a group of friends in a negative way about 6 months ago. I am still very hurt and sad about it. I feel I should be further along in the healing process than I am. My therapist says I need to mourn the loss but I for the life of me can't get her to tell me how to do this.

I am ready to move on from this hurt and pain. My life is wonderful and I am happier than I have ever been before.

ugh

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Here's an exercise suggested to me by an intuitive I went to see recently. Sit quietly in meditation and after a few minutes, call up an image of what this group of friends looks like to you. Sit with that image for several minutes and really feel, very deeply, whatever emotions come up for you. All emotions are OK. Don't block any. Then visualize a violet fire in front of you and take all the negative emotions and throw them into the fire. If any feel stuck, ask yourself how this is serving you and then try again.

She suggested repeating this once a week until it feels better.

I'm doing this in regards to my mother right now I really think it's helping a lot.
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Tara, I'm so sorry you are feeling this way --

If it helps, you have a friend in me -- no drama, and you can always give me a call if you want/need to talk *hugs*

See you later hon ...high vibration
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I lost a group of friends in a negative way about 6 months ago. I am still very hurt and sad about it. I feel I should be further along in the healing process than I am. My therapist says I need to mourn the loss but I for the life of me can't get her to tell me how to do this.

Maybe she can't tell you because it's a personal thing that everyone has to do their own way. And also, it takes time. A lot of time. And if it's a "group" of friends, not just one, you have to deal with the loss of each as an individual too. Don't stick the happy sticker over it. Be angry at them, as a group and as individuals, be sad, cry if you have to.

But if you feel you are ready to move along, then there are some things you can try.

Some things I've used for the former friend who sent me an email by mistake last fall - someone on here suggested a visualization where you imagine someone standing in your hand, tiny. You tell them you forgive them and then blow them away. Someone else suggested imagining the person saying nice things about you. I did that and thought it was backfiring on me when I started missing the friend but then in thinking about it, it led me to realizing some things that were missing from my life so it was good

What's worked the best for me so far for things like this has been the Sedona method we've discussed on here. And I haven't done the full thing, just the quickie, three question thing I talked about before (from the Bill Harris download). I didn't have this in my toolbox when I was still having problems with former friends, but I bet it would have worked nicely.

But it does take time and 6 months is, IMO, not too long. You're not stifling feelings remember, just trying to work through them. If you wallow in them, that's not good, but if you rush it it's not good either, so just go with what feels right.
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I have received wonderful blessings from two of the mamas on this list

I am now reading Ask and it is Given, which I LOVE and am so very grateful for, thanks to Koalamama

AND this morning I was able to buy myself some new clothes, which I also LOVE, thanks to Eli's mommy

And now I find my hang-up. I must somewhere, very deep down, really believe I don't deserve to have things! When I got to go shop on line today, it was really fun, except for this voice that kept noticing little things that would seem to go wrong and would tell me: see? you're not supposed to do this! You're doing something wrong! And occasionally when I pick up my wonderful new book to read it, I feel the same way! Like........the kids are loud, I guess I'm not supposed to read this right now.

I feel like I must wait until everyone everywhere is all taken care of physically, emotionally, financially, and all my work and studying and cleaning is done (haha! It's never done!) and then I can MAYBE think about me. Oh, wait, nope, I can't. That doesn't work either. UGH!

I am so very grateful to be blessed by these mamas (and ALL of you here). I just need to figure out how to banish the "you're not good enough" crap in my head!
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I have received wonderful blessings from two of the mamas on this list

I am now reading Ask and it is Given, which I LOVE and am so very grateful for, thanks to Koalamama

AND this morning I was able to buy myself some new clothes, which I also LOVE, thanks to Eli's mommy

And now I find my hang-up. I must somewhere, very deep down, really believe I don't deserve to have things! When I got to go shop on line today, it was really fun, except for this voice that kept noticing little things that would seem to go wrong and would tell me: see? you're not supposed to do this! You're doing something wrong! And occasionally when I pick up my wonderful new book to read it, I feel the same way! Like........the kids are loud, I guess I'm not supposed to read this right now.

I feel like I must wait until everyone everywhere is all taken care of physically, emotionally, financially, and all my work and studying and cleaning is done (haha! It's never done!) and then I can MAYBE think about me. Oh, wait, nope, I can't. That doesn't work either. UGH!

I am so very grateful to be blessed by these mamas (and ALL of you here). I just need to figure out how to banish the "you're not good enough" crap in my head!
You know, I learned a trick for this, and I love it.

There's a phrase that's much more difficult to argue with than regular affirmations. I use it for my toughest feelings.

"It's okay for a person to want time for themselves." "It's okay for a person to want to take care of themselves and grow spiritually."

Kind of tough to argue with that. It doesn't say "for ME to" and that kind of seems to not activate the arguing part of my mind. It doesn't trigger my "oh no you don't!" voice.
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Here's an exercise suggested to me by an intuitive I went to see recently. Sit quietly in meditation and after a few minutes, call up an image of what this group of friends looks like to you. Sit with that image for several minutes and really feel, very deeply, whatever emotions come up for you. All emotions are OK. Don't block any. Then visualize a violet fire in front of you and take all the negative emotions and throw them into the fire. If any feel stuck, ask yourself how this is serving you and then try again.

She suggested repeating this once a week until it feels better.

I'm doing this in regards to my mother right now I really think it's helping a lot.
I remember you telling us this. I will try it.

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But it does take time and 6 months is, IMO, not too long. You're not stifling feelings remember, just trying to work through them. If you wallow in them, that's not good, but if you rush it it's not good either, so just go with what feels right.
Thanks you so much. This is what I needed to hear. I love your advice too. I've felt very drawn to the Sedona method. It's time to act on that feeling I think.

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