Duggars are NOT Quiverfull! - Page 3 - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
Thread Tools
#61 of 63 Old 05-16-2013, 11:00 PM
pers's Avatar
Join Date: Jun 2005
Posts: 517
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 26 Post(s)
Originally Posted by VocalMinority View Post

I'm up too early and randomly reading this old post, but I'll be pleased if someone ends up addressing my question anyway.  It does deviate from focusing on the Duggars, but I believe we're not supposed to lift quotes from one thread and put them in another, right?


So:  does BF/AP of infants really work this way for everyone, or for most mothers?


With my youngest, I did everything blessedwithboys recommends in the 1st part of her post and none of the things that she suggests hasten the return of one's menstrual cycle.*  Yet, my regular cycle returned within a few months, just like it had with my older twins, who were in the NICU for 4 months and whom I couldn't hold much during that time and was never able to BF.  


I did BF/AP because it seemed instinctive, not because I'd researched it beforehand or hoped for a specific side-effect.  But I did hear from my midwife that breastfeeding should postpone the need for birth control (or NFP in our case, as we're Catholic).  I was disappointed that it didn't work that way, for me.  Is that really so unusual?



*Unless she strictly means that letting anyone - including husband/dad - ever hold/bond with the baby defeats BF/AP; but surely she doesn't mean that?  I assumed blessedwithboys is talking about regularly having someone else carry/care for a baby for significant stretches between nursing, so she can get things done without wearing the baby.


I think it works for a lot of people, most people even, but no, it does not for everyone and I would absolutely not recommend relying on it.  With my first, I got my period back right around her first birthday.  With my second, my first was still nursing quite a bit too too, but for some reason I got my period back at seven weeks.  I didn't believe it was a period a first, I thought it was a late return of the bleeding after birth (though that had stopped five or six weeks before), but then it came again four weeks later and four weeks after that... With my third I got it back at seven weeks again (not tandem nursing that time).  


I nursed on demand (baby anyway, toddler nursed several times a day when tandem nursing, but sometimes was told to wait), co-slept, and used a wrap and sling a lot.  I did put my babies in a swing occasionally as I was home alone with no one else to hold the baby, but I don't believe that there has ever been a society where the mother held the baby 100% of time without handing her off to a grandmother for twenty minutes here or there, and with my second the reason for putting him the swing was generally so my toddler could nurse.  

pers is offline  
Sponsored Links
#62 of 63 Old 05-16-2013, 11:54 PM
pek64's Avatar
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 2,500
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Originally Posted by Bokonon View Post

This is not true.  Catholics are expected to not use birth control because it interferes with God's will.

Catholics can use natural family planning.
applejuice likes this.
pek64 is offline  
#63 of 63 Old 05-17-2013, 12:24 AM
pek64's Avatar
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 2,500
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I've read that the amount of time spent nursing impacts return of fertility, especially at night. So a child who is nursing off and on at night would trigger the hormones that keep fertility at bay. I don't know if there's a lot of research on this to support or refute it, but I'm putting it out there for debate.
pek64 is offline  

Quick Reply
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:


Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.

User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off