Join Date: May 2005
Location: #12 Grimmauld Place
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Wow, I thought something was up with this when I couldn't really understand the website explaining the original story. It started out claiming to be written by the dad, then sounded like it was being written by the mom....the whole story just did NOT make sense! Especially the parts about getting stuff out of storage and being gone for awhile after the ER visit.
That said, my son's smallish to average for his age, and I'm at the point where I am not finishing his vax'es, etc.
Here is what *I* would do if *I* were in the situation of having my child found to be anemic and I wanted to try a more natural remedy first.
First off, I would have a regular care provider who's seen my child over a period of time, who knows he is happy, healthy, on track developmentally, etc. rather than going to the ER for a fever and running the risk that someone would freak over the fact that he's on the smallish side.
Second, I wouldn't outright refuse their offer of help. What I would say is "OK, I understand that anemia can be serious for my child. I would like to try to increase his iron levels by offering him iron-rich foods along with Vitamin C foods to enhance iron absorption before putting him on a supplement. When would you like to see him back for another test?" (also in my case, if my child were over a year and consuming dairy since we're not vegan, I would look at lowering his dairy consumption since the calcium can interfere with iron absorption.)
That *should* tell a doctor I'm concerned about my child's health and that I plan to do *something* about it. What these people did probably made it look to the doctor like they were NOT going to do anything about it.
And I don't know a whole lot about veganism, but this child's diet seemed extreme even by vegan standards. I can even understand not giving certain breads and cereals because they're low-nutrition. But *what* would be wrong with beans, which I would think he'd need for protein, and things like brown rice? Quinoa, which is a complete protein grain? I can't think that eating *only* fruits and seeds, as was listed for this baby (there was a page that listed his typical daily diet, it was basically figs, mango, banana, avocado, and pumpkin seeds), can possibly be a healthy diet. I think a baby can be raised to be healthy without meat or even animal products at all, but it has to be done carefully, and it has to include a *lot* of different plant-based foods to get different nutrients.
Basically, I can see why this child hasn't been given back. *I* wouldn't give him back either if I thought the mother was going to reunite with the dad or if I thought the dad would come take him from her. Angry with the system or not, there's a way to deal with it, and that's *not* to make threats and kidnap your child from his foster placement with the grandmother. At least at the grandma's, they had a chance of getting him a vegan diet (even if not so extreme, which would be a GOOD thing) and it sounded like the mom had daily contact with him, coming to bf and drop off diapers. And he was with a familiar person.
The saddest part of all this is the father's actions got the child placed with strangers.