been hangin back reading everyones posts and had to laugh at the yoga comments.
just yesterday i was caught up in a yoga/excercise video on all fours leaning down with one breast out and ds holding on with all his might to get that suckle in, while i am lifting my leg on the other side....yeah. it was a sight.
and yes, heather, by all means. my name is cheryl! i am too lazy to sign off. thanks for snooping for me!
just pondering el's expectation question. thinking, my expectations do play out on a big scale, like, i am working at home until 1:00pm and then dh will take over until 5pm today- or whatever the day is scheduled to be. but beyond that, it really is fly by the seat of our pants.
i don't imagine that anyone has it easy all of the time, but i do suppose that the book is helping us with our mindset so that we aren't feeling trapped all of the time. i definitely relate to the trapped feeling.
i'll bet if we all had the time to visit each and every one of eachother's homes and really get a look at the daily routine (if you could call it that!), we'd learn that somewhere in each person's home, is a sacrifice that we either haven't taken, or aren't willing to take, and vice versa.
we all talk about what works or doesn't work, but no one really has the big picture on us you know?
this thread seems to help me because somehow through the cosmos and what have you, we all have come to find this book interesting in this day and time of our lives, which means that among the million things we have all done and are doing, this idea....mindfulness, has made it to the top 10? 20? 30? 40? of our priorities.
i really had no point. oh wait. i did.
when el made the example of not being able to leave if following her babes cues for sleep,
i thought "i'd leave, and ds would fall asleep in the car, and maybe get woken up again, but if it were something i had to do, it wouldn't be the end of the world..."
and then thought "but maybe it is really important to el that she not interrupt her babes sleep, which is important, that our babes get their sleep. man does she have her priorities straight"
and then thought "does that make me a bad parent that i would?",
and then i thought, "no, just a different parent",
and then i thought "if we all had the time to visit eachother's house.... " and you know the rest.
i say all of that with no judgement. just a thought among many (as you can see)
although i love my work from home and work out of the home set up, i definitely admire those who have set it up to be full time parents for the one on one time they have created.
yet i don't think myself vicitim to my circumstances that we couldn't afford it if i did that (because we couldn't), because i know i had choices to get to this point.
and neither do i beat myself up for only being able to play in little snatches of time during my work from home time. i can't. i could. and i have. but i know i shouldn't.
but i do know, that maintaining this awareness for myself, helps me to be present when my time is free, and to include ds in the task of doing my laundry, washing the dishes, cooking our meal, or driving to the store.
that awareness (which is always potential guilt or low self esteem, or whatever emotion i can try and give it) helps me remember all of the in between moments when i really don't have time. because every diaper change, meal prep, and toy pick up is a time to tell a story of changing a diaper, prepping a meal, or picking up a toy. ds loves to listen and help, as well as yell and mess it all back up.
my sacrifice is not being able to play with him all of the time. but my reward is keeping him home with me or my husband full time.
just some rambling thoughts. i hope it seems somehow relevant to our thread. i really do love everyones thoughts here.