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|Originally posted by nuggetsmom
And I am pretty sure that she won't slleep and get over tired and really be a pill. How is that for mindfullness. I am trying to let it go and see what happens because I know if I have expectations I will live up to them and be tired and horrible and impatient.
|"And acceptance is the answer to ALL my
problems today. When I am disturbed, it is
because I find some person, place, thing, or
situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable
to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept
that person, place, thing, or situation as being
exactly the way it is supposed to be at this
moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in
God's world by mistake. Until I could accept
my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless
I accept life completely on life's terms, I
cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so
much on what needs to be changed in the world
as on what needs to be changed in me and in my
c. 1976, Alcoholics Anonymous, page 449
|Maureen Garth's popular mediations for children were born out of the author's desire to help her three-year-old daughter sleep soundly. Developing "the gentle art of going within", her delightful stories helped her child -- and many others around the world -- to feel secure and to sleep peacefully.
In Moonbeam, Garth invites her readers to accompany her on journeys into an imaginative world of animals, people and places. She shows parents how to use these imaginings with their children, helping them deal with their anxieties, develop their concentration and enhance their creativity.
|Originally posted by mamabutterfly
Oh, one other thing related to EB -- a group of women at my church have begun meeting to talk about motherhood, and July's meeting will be discussing Everyday Blessings! I'm excited, though it feels mildly, um, disloyal to you all, lol
I'll let you know how it is!
|Originally posted by nuggetsmom
ANalisa, how are you doing? Hanging in there I hope. I thik about you every once in a while.
|i forget who knows sonoma county and used to live here? maybe that will come together sometime.
|Originally posted by Festivus
Jacqueline, that so made me think of page 449 in the AA Big book:
Thought others might enjoy that so I pasted it in... By the way, I was a huge softball nut for years. It's how dh and I met. We both played at the same park.
|The first requirement is that we be convinced that any
life run on self-will can hardly be a success. On that
basis we are almost always in collision with something
or somebody, even though our motives are good. Most
people try to live by self-propulsion. Each person is
like an actor who wants to run the whole show; is forever
trying to arrange the lights, the ballet, the scenery
and the rest of the players in his own way. If his arrangements would only stay put, if only people would do as he wished, the show would be great. Everybody, including himself, would be pleased. Life would be wonderful. In trying to make these arrangements our actor may sometimes be quite virtuous. He may be kind, considerate, patient, generous; even modest and self-sacrificing. On the other hand, he may be mean, egotistical,
selfish and dishonest. But, as with most humans, he
is more likely to have varied traits.
What usually happens? The show doesn't come off
very well. He begins to think life doesn't treat him right.
He decides to exert himself more. He becomes, on the
next occasion, still more demanding or gracious, as the
case may be. Still the play does not suit him. Admitting
he may be somewhat at fault, he is sure that other people
are more to blame. He becomes angry, indignant, self-pitying.
What is his basic trouble? Is he not really a
self-seeker even when trying to be kind? Is he not a
victim of the delusion that he can wrest satisfaction and
happiness out of this world if he only manages well? Is
it not evident to all the rest of the players that these are
the things he wants? And do not his actions make each
of them wish to retaliate, snatching all they can get out
of the show? Is he not, even in his best moments, a
producer of confusion rather than harmony?
Selfishness, self-centeredness! That, we think, is the
root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear,
self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the
toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they
hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably
find that at some time in the past we have made
decisions based on self which later placed us in a position
to be hurt.
So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own
making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic
is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he
usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we alcoholics
must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it
kill us! God makes that possible. And there often seems
no way of entirely getting rid of self without His aid.
Many of us had moral and philosophical convictions
galore, but we could not live up to them even though we
would have liked to. Neither could we reduce our self-centeredness much by wishing or trying on our own power. We had to have God's help.
This is the how and the why of it. First of all, we had to
quit playing God. It didn't work. Next, we decided that
hereafter in this drama of life, God was going to be our
Director. He is the Principal; we are His agents. He is the
Father, and we are His children. Most Good ideas are simple,
and this concept was the keystone of the new and triumphant
arch through which we passed to freedom.
When we sincerely took such a position, all sorts of remarkable
things followed. We had a new Employer. Being
all powerful, He provided what we needed, if we kept
close to Him and performed His work well. Established
on such a footing we became less and less interested in
ourselves, our own little plans and designs. More and more we
became interested in seeing what we could contribute to
life. As we felt new power flow in, as we enjoyed peace of
mind, as we discovered we could face life successfully, as
we became conscious of His presence, we began to lose
our fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter. We were reborn.
|Originally posted by rainsmom
Thanks Festivus! My son is in rehab now and though Ive read some things on AA, I still dont know the kinds of things he is going thru, or reading etc etc, that will hopefully help him move from actor to healthy contributing adult. Ive seen some people change from AA, and others not. am I just a mother to hope he can come thru this and turn his life around? My hopes are high.