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Expecting Our Rainbow Babies- February 2013 Thread

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January 2013 Thread

This is the February 2013 pregnancy thread for ALL graduates of the "Hoping, Healing & Conceiving Again" threads, or anyone who has suffered a loss and has found themselves expecting again. Here we can discuss our concerns and problems in the safety and company of other mamas like us. Compare BETA results, our prenatal screens, show off our scans, and in what seems like a lifetime away - our newborn baby pictures.

If you are a new poster, just let me know your EDD, and I'll update at the start of each week. Due date calculator with luteal phase length.

Just as a reminder, please post any updates that you'd like the threadkeeper to add or change in bold.

We have a FB group for sharing whatever you'd like in a private setting. If you'd like to join, you can find us here.

Congratulations!!
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jodieanneanton - welcomed Graham Vincent on February 20th
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AdalinesMama - Welcomed babies Calliope Jane ane Eleanor Wendy on 4 January 2013
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autumngrey - Welcomed baby Éowyn Iris on 4 January 2013
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Harmony96 - Welcomed baby Josiah Nathan on 31 December 2012
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stegenrae - welcomed baby Genevieve Soleil on 12 December 2012
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Greenmamato2 - welcomed baby Gunner Alexander on 15 November 2012
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Wendylynn - welcomed baby boy born 9 November 2012
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RoseRedHoofbeats - welcomed babies Thomas and Augustus born 6 November 2012
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zubeldia - welcomed baby Charlie born 17 October 2012
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diana_of_the_dunes - welcomed baby Rowyn born 11 July 2012
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3surfboys - welcomed baby Skyla born 2 July 2012
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thecountrymouse - Welcomed baby Enso 11 June 2012
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Slshoe128 - Welcomed baby Kinzley Hope 27 May 2012
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cristeen - Welcomed Ezri Almara 26 May 2012
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CorgiMommy - Welcomed baby Sean 21 May 2012
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Callieollie - Welcomed baby Emma May 5 2012
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Snadaska - Welcomed a baby girl April 8 2012
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Ekandrmkb - Welcomed baby Penelope born 4 April 2012
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Loveandlight33 - welcomed a baby boy born 23 March 2012
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Remark71 - welcomed baby Scott Edward 13 March 2012
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Cameragirl - welcomed baby Avery Reed born 5 March 2012
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hildare - welcomed baby Caoimhin Buck born 7 February 2012
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zejh - Welcomed baby Jane
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They've had their babies, but we're waiting to hear from.....

cygknit - EDD 21 July 2012
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soul-o - EDD 29 August 2012
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maxnmaizy - EDD 4 July 2012
nicolemarie - EDD 15 July 2012
Gemmine - EDD 4 November 2012
paranoidprego - EDD 10 Feb 2013

Expecting
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CamoShades - 40 weeks, expecting baby #3, after two losses. EDD Feb 26 2013

writinglove- 38 weeks, expecting baby #2, first baby stillborn in December 2011. EDD March 2013

knoel - 36 weeks, expecting baby #2, 1 loss.

Rainey Daye - 32 weeks, expecting baby #2, with three more in heaven, EDD 21 April 2013

Lisaanne - 32 weeks, expecting baby #3,with two more in heaven. EDD 23 April 2013

1babysmom - 28 weeks, expecting baby #4, with seven more in heaven. EDD Late April 2013

Tenk - 22 weeks, expecting baby #6, with 6 more in heaven. EDD 5 July 2013

talldarkeyes - 21 weeks, EDD July 6 with baby #2 with 3 previous losses

beingmommy - 20weeks, expecting baby #2, 2 losses, EDD 12 July 2013

heyitskalista - 20 weeks, expecting baby #4, 1 loss, EDD 15 July 2013

J and Js mommy - 18 weeks, expecting baby #3, baby #2 born still, EDD 26 July 2013

thecoffeebean - 17 weeks, expecting baby #2 after 5 losses. EDD 2 August 2013

carmen358 - 17 weeks pregnant with #2 after 5 losses. EDD 7 August 2013

porcelina - 16 weeks, expecting baby # 3, 4 losses, EDD 6 August 2013

Thebyr - 12 weeks, expecting baby #1. Two previous losses: 8 weeks and 18 weeks. EDD 9 September 2013

sarahl918 - 9 weeks, expecting #1 after 2 losses, EDD 30 September, 2013

Jennyanydots- 8-9 weeks, expecting #4 after 1 loss. EDD September 2013

MommaMeggles - 7 weeks, expecting baby #2 after 1 previous loss. EDD 8 October 2013

maszat85 - 7 weeks, expecting #2 after 4 losses. EDD 12 October, 2013

revolting - 7 weeks, expecting number 3 after 4 losses. EDD 16 October, 2013

shiloh- 6 weeks, expecting after 1 loss. EDD October 2013

In our thoughts...

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MIA - Please feel free to jump back in any time!

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#152 ·
Shiloh - Ugh. Guys can be SO immature. LOL. Its totally not your fault. Clearly this baby NEEDS to be here.
Tenk - Thanks Tenk! I'm super excited too. I hope we get the nub shot. The Hubs is totally against knowing the sex - but I'm ALL about guessing. So far I think boy. We'll see next week. Yeah - that doppler works pretty darn good. I've been able to catch the beat a few times since 9 weeks. It's getting easier and easier to find. I can't keep it long enough to get a reading - so I have to wait til next week to tell the bpm. MMMMM WINE! I swear that's the ONE thing I miss while preggers. Yay for your Doc being sensitive. 18 weeks is going to be a milestones since I was shy one day last time.. but it might also be a little traumatic. I'm supposed to have u/s every 4 weeks - so I should have another one at 16 weeks - but they may wait until the 18 week body scan. I'd be ok with that... I think. lol cabury eggs sound sooo good. I should go find some since it's easter season.
 
#153 ·
Tenk, thanks for thinking of me! I am doing okay, trying to get motivated to do stuff. I just feel so stiffled by winter! I am also dealing with the mid pregnancy "blahs ". I am such a planner but right now I am sitting on my hands. I am terrible at waiting! Also, I was sad that so few people want to participate in my mother's blessing/cloth diaper shower. I feel like people are punishing me for not revealing the gender! This baby has been hoped for for three years; shouldn't I be allowed to keep something to myself? Yeah, I know what you mean about baby purchases...even maternity clothes shopping is hard for me. Oh and junk food? Bring it on! I hate that most foods don't taste good to me anymore. I went to subway the other day (don't chew me out I do understand the risks of listeria) and enjoyed eating! It was amazing! Good luck with the wine bar! What a fun project!

Shiloh, I hope in time your dh is able to make a connection. I feel a lot of compassion for him though because I have a really hard time connecting with my pregnancy while my dh does not. I am getting better now but there are still subjects that I avoid. I hope he comes around soon and that you find love and support in the meantime.

J&J, hoping to hear the great news!

Thebyr, good luck on your upcoming scan. So exciting!
 
#154 ·
Thanks TDE.

Wait.. so ppl were actually mad with you because you wouldn't share the baby's gender? Ppl have a lot of nerve. That's terrible. What is with people and their entitlement issues? Geesh!?! We are having a gender neutral shower (god willing) because my hubby doesn't want to know the sex. Folks will just have to live with not knowing. smh. Sounds like your shower was nice anyway. You wanted ppl to bring you cloth diapers? We're doing cloth. I bought them for our angel already - they are hiding in a closet.
 
#155 ·
Our loss was brutal. Funny it was him who'd start talking about rainbow babies when he got tipsy. The loss for me was so raw for too long. I guess denial is common for all of them. I just hate the silence.
 
#156 ·
I wouldn't say a word about lunch meat, I buy peppered ham from the deli at our local super market and for the 1st 3 months the ONLY thing that sounded good was sandwiches with ham, avocado, mustard, pickles, lettuce, mayo and gluten free bread :) and I had at least 1 a day LOL

And speaking of gender ... FIL called DH and pretty much begged him to tell what the baby is. He kept saying ... so what are you naming HER or HIM and Kev would say I'm not telling you either PERIOD!!! OH and get this ... I think I've told you all before that SIL and I just don't get along AT ALL. We were due the same day with our last, June 21st 2012 and we lost O at 18w and Molly was born in May. Well now she's due June 15th and ours will be c-section June 12th or so and we didn't announce to anyone this time. He called MIL and FIL to tell them, we didn't tell others until they could tell on their own by looking, and we did an announcement on FB for the general who ever. SIL was on a family trip with her hubs family when we did the announcement (and we aren't friends with her on FB because she's a huge b!tch) so she saw on someone else's post on FB that we were expecting and she texted kev and said "we would have preferred you tell us directly that your expecting rather than finding out on FB" and Kev replied with "we're sorry, we only told mom and dad directly" and THAT'S IT, we got nothing else from her .. yet 4 days before this I had this made for her http://www.etsy.com/listing/122980768/pink-fairytale-princess-on-hot-pink? this is the exact one, she's naming her baby Annie Christine and she got this gift in the mail (DH did NOT ask me to do this, I did this because I may dislike her but babies are a blessing no matter what). And I just felt she should have a least sent me a meaningless text saying thank you for the baby gift. NOTHING!!! And I want one of these SO bad for our baby with his name on it but I'm too scared to buy one for me so I did it for her. GAH I hate jerks LOL
 
#158 ·
Tenk! She's a super BOOTCH. Besides - had she said thank you, you would have had an opportunity to tell her that you were preggers (not that you would have - but it's the principle). Grrr. I hate ppl like that.

Family are the worst offenders of entitlement. At my grandmother's 100th b'day my 40+ year old guy cousin says (loudly in the kitchen full of ppl) - "Are you preggers? Congrats. But if not, you need to get back in the gym." I actually verbally cussed him out. My body is NONE of his business. RUDE!
 
#159 ·
Solved the mystery of how my bcp failed.
My gp perscribed me a sleeping pill. The class of drugs was listed on the pills but I didn't know what the class was. I thought I was perscribed a "sleepaid/sleepingpill" not a "hypnotoic sedative". Well I got a rainbow and answers. I knew I wasn't special enough to be in the 1% failure...
 
#160 ·
Thebyr, actually haven't had the shower yet. I just asked on facebook if people could send me their emails if they are interested in participating. I got 5 people, none of them local who wanted to participate. I am grateful to those who want to, and obviously not everyone could have seen it but Bah!

About gender: I do think people feel entitled to know and also to state their gender preference. I had my best friend tell me that she would throw me a baby shower but only if I was having a boy (which I do get but it has been 5 years since my last!). I have also had many people tell me that the baby better be a boy because 1) sibling rivalry is worse with girls or 2) girls are too dramatic and one is enough or 3) I need experience raising boys or 4) girls are too expensive...Anyone else notice that male gender preference is alive and well? We will be delighted to have a live baby and we think another girl in our family will be just as awesome as a boy would be.

Tenk, some people just don't say "thank you." It is incredibly rude of your SIL and so sad that she is so self-centered. I sent a gift to a baby shower for a woman I barely knew and she never said anything to me about it, despite the fact that I saw her every week. Heck, as far as I know she hated it. I cant imagine family being so rude. I think you ought to buy that blanket even though it's hard. I pull down the cloth diapers I bought pretty often so I can touch them and just look at them. It is kind of silly but it helps me connect in a small way.

Thebyr, I might have resorted to violence had it been me.

Shiloh, did you tell your dh? Does he believe you now?
 
#161 ·
I do have a 10% discount code for the next purchase so maybe I might but I can make the taggie blanket myself (I just can't put his name on it :() ... I don't know what to do. And to be honest, I think the reason she didn't say anything is because our baby is coming in June (that's all he told her) and her baby is due in June and when we were due the same day last time she was so mad she could spit nails LOL.

TDE, after we lost Kamryn I saved all her clothes in a box and (my mom put them there before we even came home from the hospital at my request) didn't pull them out again until we miscarried the 1st time and it was only to cry. I looked through them several times after that but we struggled with secondary infertility for almost 2 years. When I did get pregnant again, we had a boy and my good friend was having a girl, so I mailed all our girl stuff to her (only saved 2-3 things that I couldn't part with) and she sent me her baby boy things. As soon as AF returned 10-11 months later I got pregnant with L (a girl) and really struggled with her being a girl (I had serious gender disappoint issues) because I really thought Kamryn would be our last girl and we would have a boy. After L was born early, and in the NICU for 13 days and I was pumping every 3 hours around the clock to take there to her etc etc, I had PPD and PTSD (very traumatizing and similar to Kamryn's birth/situation) but now I wouldn't change her for the world. I honestly can't imagine life without her and she is truly my doll baby!!! DH even want this one to be a girl too because he loves having this sweet baby girl. I think he's getting excited about this being a boy now because L will be our last "baby girl" for sure now LOL

J&J, I'm so sorry for being a pest, just wanted you to know I'm thinking about you and anxiously awaiting your update :)
 
#163 ·
I'm terrified to buy anything. I saved only the blanket I bought for my loss. I put it away. I used to sleep with it.

I'm getting paraniod. Every twitch, cramp. I emailed my hemotologist I'm going to push for the shots. I have mw tomorrow and hcg blood draw. I pulled a 3+ on CBDigital at 17dpo which is over 2000 promising. Same time with loss I was around 150.

DP aka unknowing sperm donor how'd that happen? Is listening but not talking. Grrr. He still thinks my pills can cause false positives. Denial is his ignorant security blankie.
 
#164 ·
Sorry I was in a cafe with crappy wifi and my post about the midwife appointment didn't work. It was uneventful, besides I gained5 lbs in 6 weeks and the baby was moving so much we couldn't get a good heart rate. But she settled for 143 which is on the low side to me. So I wasn't happy about this one moving so much when I thought it wasn't based on what I'm feeling. I thought I'd be excited to hear the HR, but it's as if I never had the appointment at all. Trying not to think about it. Haha whatever. One cool thing is that due to hubby's work schedule they moved the 20w ultrasound to Wednesday march 6, 9am! 2 days earlir than before. Cool! Maybe this will be more real then. I just feel fat and lazy now and keeping this axsecret for so long feels weird to talk about it outloud. Oh ya, the secret Is out so I'm allowed to talk about it.
 
#165 ·
Thanks for your thoughts everyone.
Thebyr I would have fractured my hand punching him.
I too have had the urge to go out and buy baby stuff. But returning jacksons everything was horrific. A couple months later I still saw some of his exact returns in one of the stores. So sad. I just tell myself we don't have space for baby stuff if we are trying to move to NC and that is my excuse. It's so bull shit that we can't be happy about another life on the way. It's so confusing and exhausting.
The dr office let me schedule another appointment at 4 weeks instead of 6, 6 is way too long.
 
#167 ·
J&J sounds like you had a good (albeit uneventful) appointment. Yay for getting scheduled in 4 weeks. I had to wait 5 this time so I could get my NT and u/s all at once... it is too long!

Shiloh - good luck at your appt tomorrow.

My nausea has reached the "PUKE POINT." I thought I had escaped it. It's been bad but I swear last pregnancy it was MUCH worse. But just like last time week 11 brings the urge to actually show ppl my stomach contents IN PUBLIC. Yesterday it was at the Vietnamese restaurant (thank god for altoids) and today it was at the entrance of work... luckily my hands were cold when I put them on the back of my neck. This is NOT hot. It comes out of nowhere.. and once it gets to a certain point.. I can't stop it. Not to mention - EVERY TIME I regurgitate... I also pee at the same time. Guess I'm back to wearing pantyliners.
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#168 ·
Thebyr, I totally understand what you're saying. I pee a tiny bit every single time I puke but only when pregnant LOL ah the reality of something pushing down while also pushing up and out. Sorry it's come to that, but I do think it's a good sign. Hopefully it doesn't last too much longer mama <3

Shiloh, good luck at your appt today and I can't wait to hear all the details!!

J&J, I'm sorry it was so uneventful but I'm excited that you got to hear baby's heart beat!! Try to be assured that 143 is a GREAT number, aren't you 17+ weeks? I think baby's heart rate peaks around 12-15w then goes to a more normal rate, also when I check at home some times our baby is around 135 and sometimes it's higher but 140's is average for him every time. I am glad you can finally out yourself too.

AFM, off to the fabric store so I can make some burp cloths and taggie's for the neighbor and a girl that I called my friend over the summer but haven't spoken to at all since our Halloween party :( but she's 33w and her last baby came at 36w so I have to get moving.
 
#169 ·
Thanks Tenk. You feel me! You're right - it is a great sign. My last baby was perfect healthy.. it was the fibroids that did all the damage. I really shouldn't complain about my nausea... I really shouldn't.. but it kinda consumes my life. Pregnancy would actually be quite enjoyable if I could avoid the nausea. Especially this time since I'm not in any pain. How do you make birth cloth's (and what are taggies)? I need some craft projects. I was going to make my own diapers last time.... but I caught a ton of sales on cottonbabies and just bought everything. I'd like to make something though.. birth clothes and swaddle blankets are on my list.
 
#171 ·
My ultrasound is the 5th.

Trigger alert: Abortion mentioned in an emotional way not reality.

I lost it at my GP's. I mourned my loss badly. DP is less than thrilled with me, he's not actually "talking" to me just responding to important things. I actually asked about a termination. I'm sure its my emotions and I am afraid of losing him. I'm uber prolife for godsake. I feel like such a bad person for even thinking that thought when I would have done anything to stop the last loss.

I did also get my prenatal blood work done, ob, hemotologist, bloodwork, genetic counselling and dating ultrasound requisitions. Moved my mw to Friday.

Emotionally I am all over the map.
 
#173 ·
Yeah I wonder if part of the reason I broke was I'm a control freak a mc is harder than choice. I hate feeling like he's angry at himself and me that I'm being pregnant. Ultrasound is in 2 weeks. I think I will go alone. Last time he had only stupid football sayings to (with our first bad us) offer as support...like its not over until the whistle blows...go blow your own whistle.

He set aside the afternoon tomorrow.
I think it will be our first really big verbal fight. I'm not holding back.
 
#175 ·
I felt really dumb saying those things.
Thanks for being supportive.
My friend reminded me over tea everything is in god's hands. My gp called my gyn he called back lol he refused. Is that a sign?
 
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