Help dealing with overbearing mother who doesnt understand.
I'm having a really hard time dealing with my mother who is being very overbearing. I am 17 weeks and this will be her first grandchild. So, she is understandably excited. She knows I had a loss at 12 weeks last year but she does not know I had another loss at 7 weeks. She is giving me guilt trips about how I'm ruining her joy and not having the special fun time that should be happening between mother and daughter when the daughter is pregnant. I haven't talked to her about much because I just haven't wanted to. It's not that I'm not happy but I'm always worried thinking 'what if something goes wrong'. I'm sure most of you understand. I told her its different after you've had a loss but she just turns it back around on her saying she doesn't understand why we wouldn't be jumping for joy now. I don't even know how I could begin to help her understand. She is not being considerate for my feelings and takes everything personally and makes it all about her. We got in this big argument over it and now I just feel depressed and stressed. Any advice on how to deal would be great. I could keep going on and on but I'm trying to keep it short!