First of all, DH and oldest DD have ADHD.
DH takes was dx 4 years ago and has had great success with his mess (promotion, amazingly better at social interactions and personal relationships)
DD was dx 3 years ago. We tried her on meds for 2 months, but because she was doing ok at school and was happy, we decided to stop it until things changed. She is being homeschooled now and I can taylor her studies to suit her needs.
And them you have our nearly 4yo DS
Since he was almost 2, we have noticed there was something slightly different about him. It has always been very hard to get his undivided attention for longer than a few moments. He also had a lot of small obsessions he can fill his days with to the extent he will talk about them constantly. He sometimes has little ideas and thoughts about exciting things, and he will get so worked up that he will pace back and forth, back and forth around the floor while his little mind works furiously. You can try to call his name, but he won't listen unless you hold him and make sure he is looking at you.
For a while we feared he was autistic, OCD or something, but the older DS
gets, the more DH can rated to his behaviour from when he was child. But could it be wishful thinkingof our part? ADHD does not scare us... the other diagnosis do.
He throws wild tantrums when frustrated, and unlike his siblinhs, he is simply so absorbed by them that he does not care where or who you are when he is in it. NOTHINg will get him to stop - all he can think about is what he is feeling and won't listen to any requests, bargains or threats (I know... bad mom but I get desperate sometimes
: ) The irony is that at the same time, he is the same time, the sweetest little boy 90% of the time.
Another thing is that he never asks for things for himself or talks about his feeling. He prefers to work things out on his own it seems. He LOVES cuddles, kisses (the smile and look of bliss on his face are priceless) but rarely initiates them. On the other hand, he is constantly coming to talk about a million things per second and asking to play.
He is too little for formal homeschooling, but I know he can rarely keep focus on a story for longer than a minute.
I also wish he could talk about himself or more abstract feelings.
I remember that the others were doing that by 4, and it is lime DS is so quiet about things that he is not into at the moment (including his emotions)
Anyway, sorry that this got long, but I hoping somebody will share their espedience and opinions about this.