My mom is perfectly polite, but I suspect that she doesn't believe my son's diagnosis. She was a teacher and she had a friend who taught special ed look at his (incredibly detailed and professional -- done by one of the best psychologists in our area) evaluation. In the notes that the teacher friend wrote back there is an off-handed reference to "aspergers, if that is indeed what he has."
My mom has also been pushing for us to do a school evaluation (which we are headed towards for our own reasons). She said the other day that they may say something different. I told her that if they say something different they are wrong.
I said to her recently that we will be setting up a special needs trust because we can't make the assumption that DS will be able to live independently in adulthood. She was speechless -- literally. When she finally regained her voice, she said, "I just don't see that."
Just venting, really. It is hard to be in relationship with someone who can't accept your reality.