ODD/ADHD-Losing my mind - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 2 Old 04-25-2009, 01:35 PM - Thread Starter
 
tjlucca's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: We are a Nomadic little tribe
Posts: 307
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
How old do children need to be to be tested or treated for this (ADHD/ODD)? Four major explosions already today and it's not even noon. Hitting, throwing silverware at me. Can't stop moving, can't stop speaking. Nothing I say penetrates. NOTHING. We go through this every day. She fights evewrything no matter how small. She argues everything. EVERYTHING. Even things that don't matter. Example: I say "I like this song". She says, "NO YOU DON'T, I DO. It's MY SONG." That's for the stuff that doesn't matter. When I make a request of her. Like, "let's go in the bathroom and brush or teeth", or "It's time to brush teeth". She screams hits me, throws things at me. EVERYDAY.Her father has been diagnosed with ADHD. I know it's genetic. We have been trying Gluten free/casein free, supplementation, being firm and loving with her. She seems to just be resentful, hostile and hateful, no matter what. She is going on 4 years old. When can she be tested? I am going crazy. I am at home with her. He father goes to work. It's just me, with all of this, every day.

namaste.gif WAHSM to Ani (7) and Juddah (18mo.)

homebirth.jpggoorganic.jpgintactivist.gifwave.giflactivist.gif
 
 

tjlucca is offline  
#2 of 2 Old 04-25-2009, 02:17 PM
 
sbgrace's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Posts: 9,223
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
She sounds really challenging (understatement perhaps).

You can treat her now. Here's some research on an approach that worked great here and in other people's homes that I know. And you can do it yourself. http://difficultchild.com/sp-bin/spi...E=27&CATALOG=5

The approach is explained well in this book http://www.amazon.com/All-Children-F.../dp/0967050782 This changed our lives. I can't recommend it enough. Glasser (author's) original approach was made for kids with ODD and ADHD. He then figured out it works for all kids--from the most difficult to the "easy" ones. This is his new book and is much better to read than past ones and the approach has been modified to work even better--specifically with young kids.
His older book http://www.amazon.com/Transforming-D...0679735&sr=1-1 has more reviews as it has been around a lot longer. But the co-author is different and I've been told by multiple people that it is repetitive and hard to get through reading wise. People who have read both definitely recommend the All Children Flourishing book. It is the one I've read. It's the one to get. I hope you'll get it because I think it could make a huge difference in your life and that of your daughter. Quickly if our experience is any indication.

If you want more support or want to learn in a video and electronic way this is another option-- http://www.energyparenting.com/ More expensive but immediate and presumably more direct help. I've not used this--we just got the book.

Rachelle, mommy to 8 year old boys! 

My Blog-free homeschooling finds and my lesson plans and link to the new User Agreement

sbgrace is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off