So we waited 5 months for this appointment and I spent over an hour preparing for it last night. DH and I snapped at each other all the way there. And it turned out to be a giant waste of time.
We were having DS (almost 3) evaluated for SPD/ASD. I specifically told them that I wanted a sensory and autism evaluation. I was apparently incredibly naive to think that a dev ped actually works that way. I can't believe I didn't go the OT route first.
So, I have been having bad anxiety. I basically shut down when he asked us about our concerns. I couldn't remember anything. For everything that I DID manage to talk about, DH just said "yes, but..." The main thing DH is worried about is anxiety, so that got mentioned a lot. After listening to us for about 10 minutes, this dr. did a quick questionaire about his social skills, etc., asked a few very basic questions about his medical history, and then stacked blocks with DS and asked him to throw a ball and follow a few simple directions. DS did fine, but was chewing his fingers to death through the whole thing. I could tell he was pretty nervous.
Then this guy proceeded to talk at us for about 20 minutes. He proclaimed that DS does not have ASD. Great. You spent 15 minutes with him and stacked some blocks. I don't think he has it either, but it would be nice if you were a bit more thorough. Then he proceeded to talk about how he doesn't like labeling kids for basically what he considers "normal" problems, and proceeded to talk about what a crock SPD is. It basically doesn't exist. He doesn't see how anything like brushing therapy could ever help anyone. Oh, and OTs are just in it for the money.
Then he addressed the anxiety. DS showed almost no anxiety behaviors while we were there, so he went entirely off of our word. He said therapy for anxiety is too slow for kids this age, and it doesn't work because they can't actually talk about their feelings. He suggests Prozac. That's right. After 30 minutes with us, he wants to medicate DS. But don't worry! It's totally cool for kids this age, and he's never seen anyone need it long term. And if we try that and it helps, but it doesn't help him sleep, he can give us a sleep aid for him too!
At this point, DH was starting to side with me because there is a lot of history of mental health problems in his family, including him, and he has always said that he thinks you should try everything else first before medication. Besides, with some development DS has had lately, he's been able to deal with his emotions a bit better, so he doesn't see what meds will do that we can't work on ourselves.
This doc also says that herbs don't work, that they're not studied enough to even try. He said that preschool was the answer for social anxiety because "if other kids make him think that it's not cool to meltdown, he won't do it anymore".
I don't even know what to think. I am so angry about this appointment. That guy basically invalidated everything I have been saying for the last 6 months. DH, who has previously not really followed me on this, agreed with me and said he would make the appointment for the OT so we can "get someone who can really help us." I can't believe that doctors like this are even still in practice. After a 45 minute appoint, DS could have ANYTHING, and he just wants to do trial and error with meds to find out what it is. No fing way.
I was hoping this would give me some answers, but it looks like we are right back to square one. I went the completely wrong route with this, and you can bet I'll be doing my research before I see an OT to make sure I get someone who is versed in this stuff. And I will be telling my ped, who recommended this guy, what I thought of him. I really like my ped, so I don't know what happened there.
Thanks for letting me get this out. I am so frustrated with this process. I'm glad I have somewhere to fall back and regroup.