I need to vent. I've needed to vent for a while, but this- today- was my last straw!
DS-Jake is 8yrs old. He's got Severe Anxiety, Moderate OCD, and Sensory issues, he's got pretty severe Dyslexia, and there is a chance that he has Osteogenesis Imperfecta (OI-brittle bone)...he also has some autistic like symptoms- as he hasn't been diagnosed, and we are trying to decide if it's time to do more in depth diagnosing. Our Ped is great- but she doesn't really want him to be diagnosed, because she worries that given our insurance (state medi-cal) he will be lost in the system. We moved to a rural area 3 years ago and his progress has been HUGE!
Jake was playing on the monkey bars and fell. First time on them and his anxiety kicked in and he panicked over falling, and fell
As a result he broke his arm and has significant pain in his groin area of his hips. The ER was awesome, and they insisted that he see the Ortho in one week. So I call the Ortho's office- the thing is that I see one doctor in this office. I love this office. My youngest broke his arm and was seen there and they were awesome! My husband also see's a doc there and he really liked him. Well, since we have Medi-Cal the Orthopedic office has decided that SOME people with this ins. have to be seen at the local Tribal Health office. I have no problem with this, other than they don't have an x-ray machine. Anyway- when I call the office to schedule his appt they give me grief over scheduling. They wanted to see him in two and a half weeks,
and I really felt that given the fact that Jake only had a temporary cast (plaster on the bottom and ace bandages wrapped around the top) and this hip pain that he needed to have the appt as the ER perscribed.
I had to call the Office Manager to get an earlier appointment. I had to be more assertive than I normally am
I had to tell her that I didn't like that they were IGNORING a CHILD in Pain, and that Medi-Cal PROHIBITS Descrimination-just to get an appointment. I felt like such an jerk! I love this office- they have really helped me, and here I am making veiled threats!
So we get to the appt today. The office staff and nurse are awesome! The doctor......
had NO bedside manner! He was BARKING orders at my son! He was getting frustrated with Jake because he's clumsy and slow at getting up, his hips hurt
He kept making comments that were rude and degrading to my kid! "How old is he? Well, he's really weak." he's got some sort of a hip injury! He tells me "If it was broken, there is NO way he could walk or even handle these movements." I tell him, "I did." he ignores me.(Jake hides his pain, and every movement this doc did Jake was hurting. He wants to cry over the pain, but he won't say one word. He's been this way since birth
This guy is ready to walk away and never look back when I stop him at the door and ask him about his temp cast. "Well, this is crap." was his response. What doctor says stuff like that??? So he is going to re-cast it, great! He was so rough and rude and almost yelling at Jake- yet he's not giving him any instructions about what he was doing or what he wanted Jake to do I
was the one that had to tell Jake what he was doing, and what Jake needed to do! I had to step in and be nurse and assist the doc.
WHY do Doctors feel the need to behave this way!!! I know the answer, but it is SO frustrating! I am SO not taking any of my family to HIM ever again! I felt like he treated us "because he HAD to" if you know what I mean, it was just his attitude and behavior
I know Jake's different. I know he's clumsy. I know he doesn't listen. I know he's difficult. I also know he's very smart, and very loving, and very wonderfull!
If you read all of that rambling....thank you
I really appreciate you momma's and poppa's here on MDC for supporting me and my family. Sometimes it's so easy to feel over-whealmed and out numbered!