I could be way off here but I wanted to see what you mamas thought of my DS (3). He has some severe food allergies, gluten intolerance, asthma and environmental allergies. I've always attributed his challenging behavior to these allergies - that he was either exposed to something or perhaps his body was lacking something as far as nutrients. I have wondered lately though if maybe it's partly due to something else like SPD. He was a difficult baby who had a terrible time sleeping. He did this weird thing when trying to fall asleep - scratching his finger nails on bedsheets and whoever was putting him to sleep. DH and i always said it seemed sensory. He no longer does this but he is almost always wired right before bedtime and has a hard time settling down - limbs flailing, etc. He generally sleeps through the night fine now once he finally crashes but when he was younger he would have frequent night wakings and be up for 2+ hours. He also used to have a very difficult time transitioning from sleep to being awake (screamed for 15-20 minutes after naps). He seems to be sensitive to sunlight as he frequently has meltdowns if it is in his eyes. My biggest concern is his aggression with peers. Sometimes he initiates it - completely out of the blue he will whack a kid (unknown or a friend). Sometimes he reacts physically like if a peer takes
something from him or gets to close to him. A couple of teachers (at a
parent/child class we take) have mentioned to me that he seems to need
a lot of space. At the same time when he is excited he can't seem to leave his friends alone. For example we hosted a playdate yesterday with a good friend of his. He became very wild/ hyper and kept trying to lay on her, get really close to her - so close she couldn't play, he wasn't interested in playing w/ anything b/c he was so busy following her. I've noticed this type of behavior tends to happen more when we have playdates at home. He does better outdoors but it often seems like it is better b/c he is too busy searching for bugs (he's presently obsessed with them, lol ). Also, he just does not seem to be affected by any sort of consequence. He began hitting peers at 16 months so we have been dealing with it for almost 2 years. GD doesn't seem to work nor do time outs. His physical / motor skills are great,
language has always been good. There are days when he doesn't seem to have any issues - sweet, compliant, plays well, gentle with peers/sibling. I have always wondered (and gone back and forth on) whether his behavior was "normal" but challenging or if there was something else going on. Anyone have any ideas? Thanks for reading and sorry this is so long!
Mama to DS (4/07), DD (3/09), and DS (5/13)