I have three kids. My oldest has aspergers that was not diagnosed until she was in preschool/early school years.
My middle child will be two on the 10th of this month, and has no real language beyond occasional mimicry yet. He is PDD-NOS, along with some other challenges.
My youngest is nine months old. And I feel SO guilty reveling in the 'normalcy' of his babyhood. He recently started purposefully calling me Mama. He is cruising furniture at a much earlier age, and I expect he may walk alone closer to one year than 18 months (my older kids were very late walkers).
So, because things are so 'normal', I find myself relaxing and enjoying that. Hearing him call me Mama was amazing.. and kind of healing, in an odd way (his older brother has never called me mama, though he does occasionally say 'Dad'.) Here's the problem- I feel entirely guilty for enjoying this with him, as though somehow celebrating the milestones he is meeting is somehow wrong because his older brother isn't hitting them in the same way.
Anyone else find themselves creating guilt about things like this?