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My 12 yr old has sensory issues - particularly around noise. Naturally (or is it Murphy's Law???) my 8 yr old is extremely loud. Neither are doing it on purpose - the 8 yr old is an active child - she bounces, sings, speaks loud...you get it. My 12 yr old hates it - to the point where she is extremely snappy and angry.
About 10 minjutes ago the 8 yr old made some sort of noise in the living room, and DD 12, told her to "be quiet!" from the kitchen. This type of stuff happens all.the.time.
I try and create reasonable boundaries - if DD 12 is in the room - no coming into the room and making noise. Likewise, if the 8 yr old is in the room singing, no coming in and complaining. Etc, Etc.
I have to get off (more later if need be!) but the bottom line question is:
Do you ask siblings to change their behaviour for a sensory sensitive child? Or do you somehow teach the sensory sensitive child to cope with a noisy world - and how?
FWIW, ear plugs do not work. The 12 yr old will not wear them - and she is not interested in noise reducing earphones, either. Her goal is that her sister and the rest of the world (but particularly her sister
) be quiet.
My 12 yr old has sensory issues - particularly around noise. Naturally (or is it Murphy's Law???) my 8 yr old is extremely loud. Neither are doing it on purpose - the 8 yr old is an active child - she bounces, sings, speaks loud...you get it. My 12 yr old hates it - to the point where she is extremely snappy and angry.
About 10 minjutes ago the 8 yr old made some sort of noise in the living room, and DD 12, told her to "be quiet!" from the kitchen. This type of stuff happens all.the.time.
I try and create reasonable boundaries - if DD 12 is in the room - no coming into the room and making noise. Likewise, if the 8 yr old is in the room singing, no coming in and complaining. Etc, Etc.
I have to get off (more later if need be!) but the bottom line question is:
Do you ask siblings to change their behaviour for a sensory sensitive child? Or do you somehow teach the sensory sensitive child to cope with a noisy world - and how?
FWIW, ear plugs do not work. The 12 yr old will not wear them - and she is not interested in noise reducing earphones, either. Her goal is that her sister and the rest of the world (but particularly her sister