Also they claim to be best friends but fight constantly. Dh has asked why I bother trying because they fight so much.
Single, student mama to 3 boys
I don't think you have to say much.
I would try an arrange adults only outings, or, go on an outing but leave your DS at home. Try and arrange coffee, etc, when someone can watch your kid. Phones and emails are really great ways to stay in contact (although I know they are not the same).
If she does want to do playdates, I would just be honest, but non-accusatory. "Ds and your Ds fight too much - we have decided to skip playdates for now."
Unless she is in complete denial, she knows her son is overly aggressive. You don't have to have a heart-to-heart with her, you just have to keep your child safe.
There is a battle of two wolves inside us. One is good and the other is evil. The wolf that wins is the one you feed.
Book and herb loving mama to 1 preteen and 2 teens (when did that happen?). We travel, go to school, homeschool, live rurally, eat our veggies, spend too much time...
If you are good friends, I would just tell her. As a mom to a 7yo with ODD, I wouldn't be offended, I would completely understand! It's tough to hear that your kid is so bad that someone doesn't want their child to play with him, but it is completely understandable.