My young cousin has just received a couple of diagnoses to help explain the extreme trouble he's been having. The first is ADHD. The more mysterious diagnosis is Non-Verbal Learning Disorder. This is something that I and my family do not have any experience with, and my cousin, who is about 12, is being asked to leave his public school and enroll in a special school (he lives in a state where not every school accommodates, and this is made up for with special schools elsewhere).
Does anybody here have personal experience with this? I did read the Wikipedia article (etc) on Non-Verbal Learning Disorder, but I'm wondering what you might know. My grandmother is quite concerned about her grandson, especially since he has had to be un-enrolled from summer camp and may be spending time with her this summer. He is fairly violent and gets disoriented easily. He is a sweet boy who is having trouble...suggestions for natural remedies would be welcome as well.
Hi and welcome. Your cousin is a lucky kid to have so much extended family on board to support him!
A book I love is Quirky Kids by Klass. It talks about several closely related diagnosis, and non verbal learning disability is one of them.
Not knowing anything about his new school, the best thing I can say to you is that it is quite possible that he is going to be with great teachers and other specialists who really understand him, accept him, and know how to help him move forward. There are a lot of wonderful people working in special ed.
It sounds like things have been going very, very badly for him. He has been in a situation where he cannot succeed and where all the kids are expected to be the same. That's over for him. He now gets to be where people will figure out what actually works for him rather than trying to force him into a mold that he doesn't fit. His violence *may* be due in part to completely unreasonable expectations of him. He may also have sensory issues, and some kids (esp boys) react violently when their sensory issues aren't being addressed.
One of my DD's best friends has non verbal learning disability, and his mother and I have become close. Things really hit the fan for him in middle school. He is graduating from highschool this year, accepted to our (very good!) state university for the fall (with accommodations for his special needs) and is a happy well adjusted teen at this point. But he was neither happy nor well adjusted at age 12.
I think that there is something about the hormonal imbalances of puberty that really throws off kids with even mild special needs. For most kids, puberty is a storm. For kids with challenges like your cousin's, its a hurricane. None the less, trust that the sweet kid that you all know and love is still in there, and there is way to get him through this.
but everything has pros and cons