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#1 of 3 Old 12-19-2013, 07:40 PM - Thread Starter
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I want to move to a different state with my daughter who has moderate cerebral and is wheelchair bound. The reason I want to move is my daughter will be 18 in few years. I can now still take care of her physical needs, but I worry I won't be able to care for her much longer. My only family is in portland Maine and I live in Minnesota. Does it make sense to move now while I can still care for?

Or stay in Minnesota because she has services she would lose and we would have to obtain new services in new state. My fear in this is if we stay in Minnesota and she enters a group home, I would be stuck in Minnesota forever, as I won't leave my daughter in a group home and myself live in a different state ...

Thoughts?? Please help me with pros and cons
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That is a hard decision for you to make. Best to you.
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Can you fully research what support services she would receive in Maine both now, and after she turns 18/graduates from HS at 21? Then use that to help you make a decision.

If you don't have other family/friends in Minnesota, it sounds like it would be better to move. Perhaps she would receive in-home support services that would allow her to stay living with you if you wanted that, or she'd have even more options in Maine! Or maybe not. But you can find out.

Also, keep in mind that living in a support home isn't a lifetime decision. You can move her to a different home or switch services. It certainly could be harder if she finds a great place that she likes living in, but better to research that now.

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