Originally Posted by hellokitty876
My 7 year old daughter is a perfect angel in school, makes straight A'S, and the teachers love her. However, at home she has violent outbursts frequently on a daily basis ..screams at me, daddy, or sister, will hit and kick us and throw things at us, and recently got so mad she kicked and broke her closet door. She also says mean things to us. She appears to have zero control of her emotions and has often told me she can't help it and she needs to hit. She's also loses stuff a lot..like for example she brought home something from school and misplaced it within minutes of getting home. She will lose stuff she just literately had right before she starts getting upset when she can't find it.Another thing she has issues with is change. When she was smaller she would cry and throw a fit if we rearranged the furniture etc. Now she's older she is better with change.but still occassionally will cry if something is changed. This past Easter she threw a major crying fit because the Easter bunny put her baskst in different spot than normal. Just recently she pouted and got sadwhen she saw my husband packaging up the directtv box. The other thing is sleep at night is a nightmare. She refuses to go to sleep fighting it any way she can. Its like she's wound up at bedtime. She often complains of nightmares, wishing she could sleep with somebody, frequent leg cramps etc. Does any of this sound familiar?? Please help...desperate for answers! Thanks
Sounds like my son, age 6.5.
He would hold everything in trying to cope with the demands of school and then 'let it all out' when he came home. Every child is different and I am happy for you that she is 'sailing through' at school.
In an effort to explore what might be going on
MY TOP TIPS OF THINGS TO CONSIDER ARE:
1. Diet. People have been giving wonderful suggestions on this thread. Food intolerances (different to food allergies) well worth looking into - can affect behaviour immensely. Did you know your child can have an emotional outburst due to something they ate up to seven days previously? Hideously expensive are CYREX ARRAY 3 and ARRAY 4 intolerance tests. There may be cheaper ways to explore this.
2. Retained Primitive Reflexes ( This UK website gives a good overview www.suehyland.co.uk
). Our son cried in pain with tendon tightness (like guitar strings ) at the backs of his knees at night for years. When he started doing exercises to address retained primitive reflexes - the pain disappeared.
3. Book "Disconnected Kids". This gives an insight into what difficulties some children have and what can be achieved without medication but rather an exercise and learning-based 'neuroplasticity' approach.
4. Parenting style (what works best?). Classic parenting wisdom, unfortunately, doesn't seem to work with highly emotional children. Only parents that have them understand this one!
5. Giftedness. (Some people think that gifted students have it all easy) Not always so.
Don't be surprised if your paediatrician doesn't entertain the idea of (or hasn't heard of) TIP NOS. 2,3 or 5. Go with your own instincts!
Good luck with your jigsaw puzzle - hope you find all the pieces!