Originally Posted by Amy@STL
My son who is 4 got diagnosed this year April. He started special ed school in same month ( awesome school district!).
He goes for 6 hrs for 4 days to the school, and it has changed my life! And he is making huge gains. My biggest challenge is how to fill the hours of the day?
Specially the 3 days he is not going school.
He has very restricted interest as anyone with ASD kid will know. And almost zero initiation, so he needs constant playmate. He is verbal ( at 2.5 yrs level now) and bright. I am willing to pplay with him or take him places but its such a battle. He resists going out ( its a fight to go for walk or zoo ect). But I am going to work on that hopefully through in home ABA/help.
I just want to know what do other moms do? How do you plan each day and literally fill the hours?
He is my only kid so maybe that adds to our issue. I am just so exasperated.
I am so glad you have a good school district!!!That is HUGE!
At that age my son had 3 hours of preschool, 4 days a week, and then some additional therapies some afternoons (social skills, OT, additional speech). I kept his schedule very full to reduce his time to get lost in his own world. He did gymnastics, therapeutic riding, music class and I always did a library story hour on the day off from school. Anything to get him used to other kids, sitting in a group, following another adults direction. I aimed for activities that had a double benefit (OT or language based).
By getting him in the activities with kids, it was a kind of unintentional integrated playgroup. If that therapy is available in your area, I would sign up right away. I took a training to provide those to my son at home because they are not offered where I live. That was by far the most important thing to date.
And I did a daily block of special time, Floortime style, where I connected to his play and interests but expanded then into more typical play. For example, he had a little toy riding mower he just mowed the carpet with back and forth and back and forth for as long as he could. I would join him but then add in an play theme, an pretend obstacle, etc, until we were closer and closer to the way kids his age would pretend play, (lawnmower school, lawnmower superheroes, etc). And on the long day at home, I took him to the grocery store, out to lunch, etc.
A visual schedule of the day/ week helped us both know what we were doing and when and stay more or less on plan. My son is an only and didn't want to go out either, I insisted most days on going out but began with things he loved (the park, swings) on the visual schedule (there is now an Ipad app for that). Then next my agenda for him (therapy or a group class) then something he would want again, then my agenda item. I spent a lot of time showing him "if we do... then we can do...."
Lots of luck and love him up....