my childhood neighbor, who i grew up with and who lived right next door from the time i was 2 till the time i was 17, is going thru tough times...
her ds, who i think is about 4 or 5 (???) was born with a brain condition - i can't remember what - he has really bad seizures, to the point where he has to wear a helmet all the time, plus they have damaged his motor skills and speech, and has to take all these medications and has had operations but his seizures are only getting worse, and he may have to get an operation which could leave him paralyzed, if i understand correctly...
she just sent out some letters asking for prayers. she is a very devout christian; i am not, so i cannot offer prayers, but i can offer good vibes and i do want to help.
altho we grew up together we were not close friends after puberty. she now lives in another state. i haven't seen her in years... the last time i saw her was at her brother's funeral... this family has been thru hard times.
any ideas of how i can support her?
she mentioned in her letter her back is killing her from picking him up all the time. so i thought, i wonder if she's ever tried a sling? she also has a younger dd, maybe a year or so old? but then i thought, that might be really obnoxious - here i am, havent' been in touch in years and have only been a parent for a few months, much less trying to parent under the circumstances she is dealling w/, and all of a sudden i show up w/ my hippy-dippy ideas, trying to tell her how she should parent.
i just can't imagine what she is going thru. would really appreciate your thoughts/ideas. even if it's only suggestions of what NOT to say. tia.