I'm sure I've posted on this in the past... but I'm back again, because my son is now 6, just started Kindergarten, so a whole new batch of transitions and changes to thrust him in to regression... and a new batch of teachers and therapists.
He's in a special Kindergarten for kiddos with special needs, 8 are developmental delay (AU), his IEP is for speech but he's also very hypo sensory. Not all the boxes for "sensory processing disorder", so say the past two evals he's had, but he has many sensory quirks.... Definitely a sensory seeker.
New teachers were positive... "oh we have many kiddos with bathroom issues".... until He comes in with Major #2
accidents, doesn't tell you when it's happened, LIES about it.
So they started with Conversations.
I was on board with this, because it's understandable in a new room... they have to talk about it; get him to understand the rules and "you are in charge of your body" and give him kudos when he goes.
But to him, the conversations draw attention to it and makes it worse.
The past two weeks, 100% elimination is in an accident. He's not even attempting to Go To the potty.
And now it's 2-3x A Day.
And now he's also completely regressed at home. So much that we might have to go back to Pull-Ups because I'm throwing out 2-3 pairs of underwear A DAY, and threw away a pair of pants last week because, just.... ew.
It wasn't this way at the beginning of school, but now 5 weeks in, complete regression. He doesn't have pee accidents... it's just major poo.
New teachers brings up all the same conversations: talk to his pediatrician. So I did. Again.
His body is Fine. He Can hold it; he Can make it to the potty -- he did for 3 months of the summer. He's just in a regression. I ask.... is 2-3x a day Too Much? Pediatrician says no. I'm not sure that I agree with that... seems like a lot to me
but it's what he said last year, and the different pediatrician the year before that.
So barring any physical issue... we're now at a loss.
Personally... I think it's sensory-related. I mean, it's more than that. Maybe there is a dietary thing happening and maybe I need to put him on an elimination diet and then move in to a GAPS diet... get him OFF processed school food altogether. I've gone that route before and it's helped for a time, but not permanent... although we've never stayed on GAPS permanently. I did 6 months 2yrs ago and after 3 months the consistency of his poo went back to squishy, so I cheated on the diet and eventually let it go. So... maybe diet is a big factor.
Certainly I think there is a reactionary thing happening. But now for the past week, they switched from Talking about it... to positive reinforcement. Happy charts; rewards; rewards for even 1/2 day of no accidents.
He doesn't care.
So I go back Sensory because I don't know what else to think.
This summer he was in a very sensory-based program. It wasn't for special needs kiddos specifically but the teacher was Pro-Sensory, had a sensory room, and gave him 3-4 minute breaks every hour where he could bounce, swing, play in their sand bucket, etc.
And he had limited accidents, NO #2
, and only pee accidents when they were playing outside and he was distracted and Oops -- and genuinely felt embarrassed by wetting his pants.
But how do you increase sensory in a classroom where it's not that kind of teacher?
I mean... I think he might even be one of those hypo- kids that LIKES it in his pants. He certainly has no problem with it. Isn't bothered by the smell; isn't bothered by the feeling. Maybe he likes it.
But his "quirkiness" doesn't qualify him for OT in the classroom. He stumbles, he falls, he breaks pencils, he steps on your feet... but he isn't aggressive or otherwise SO SPD that he's ever qualified. We will meet with OT in a few weeks for another evaluation just to see. but...
Do I just try to beef up his sensory before school? After school he does karate and we swim 3 days a week, plus our house is very sensory oriented - it's not a playground, but I try to keep an active sensory diet for him.
But even with all I'm Already doing... he's 100% regressed right now, home and school. I am just Done. I have given up attempts to yell or be positive or reward or try. I've cleaned so many adult-sized poops out of carpet and pants and sofas... and he LIES and that maybe more than anything breaks my heart... standing in front of me and just lies to my face... I'm just exhausted by this conversation.
I could really use some advice.