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Question Children with multiple mental health issues

Does anyone know how to get financial help for families with children with mental health disorders? My daughter is currently hospitalized for the fourth time for multiple mental health disorders directly a result of
abuse and neglect while her biological father had custody of my children. My youngest son is also suffering from Oppositional Defiance Disorder and Mood Disregulation Disorder, as well as ADHD. My son has been kicked out of public school this week. I am going to have to home-school as well as full-time work and care for my four children and very ill (MRSA/seizure) husband who have been in and out of doctors care and hospitals.
I am truly broke. No child support. I make a secretary salary.
I am tired. I rarely sleep. I have PTSD from the abuse at my ex-husband's hands and from all of the stress and fear of him and his family.
I had to hold my son down to give him his meds and he hurt me physically as I had to pull him into his room for time out because he wouldn't follow the rules.
I feel bad for holding him down and pulling him but he weighs the same as I do. I have come to be scared of phone calls from caretakers/schools/the next denial letter from the VA request to get child support and bill collectors because I have so many medical bills for my daughter.
I don't know what I can do anymore. I work all the time and I even had to be hospitalized for a day from chest pains and stress. I cannot find any way to get off work so I can take on even more responsibility.
I want to quit my job and care for my son and homeschool to get him back on track but I cannot afford to even miss an hour of work. I have called dozens of agencies in the Houston area and I cannot find even one who can help me find a financial way to get to stay home with my husband and ill children. If I take the FMLA it's unpaid. We already live in one of the worst neighborhoods because of finances and live paycheck to paycheck.
Am I a bad person? What in the world can I do?
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I don't even know about any of the possible resources that could help you, and hopefully someone that does will write back something insightful and helpful, but I wanted to say that NO! You are not a bad person! This all sounds so incredibly difficult, I honestly don't know how you manage to do it. You are courageous and extremely strong to be doing this day in and out. I wish the best for you. Take care of yourself.
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I don't know about resources, but a child can't be "kicked out" of public school. The school is legally required to provide a free and appropriate public education. If that means he needs an aide or a different placement, the district must provide it.
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I am moving this to Special Needs Parenting where I think it will get more exposure to moms dealing with these sorts of issues.

 











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I think you should find some specialist for this issue, we don't have enough knowledge for this issue
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Something seems odd here. As, someone else pointed out, you can't be "kicked out" of public school. They are required to provide your child with an appropriate education. Contact the school and find out what exactly happened and what their next steps are. There seem to be a lot of private special needs schools in Houston. I'm not from there, but sometimes the public school will pay for a private special education because it's cheaper for them in the long run. Is that a possibility? Here's a website I saw about that: http://www.sschouston.org/#!resources/ve5pb


About the medical bills, do you qualify for Medicaid? If not, Texas has CHIP http://www.texaschildrenshealthplan....-we-offer/chip which you should qualify from what you describe.


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I have called dozens of agencies in the Houston area and I cannot find even one who can help me find a financial way to get to stay home with my husband and ill children.

I don't think you're going to find that. I don't know of one agency that will give you money to help you stay home.


You're, of course, not a bad person. You're doing the best you can in a really bad situation. You're going to get through this. Take a deep breath and then the next. You're strong. You can do this. You're a mom.

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Something seems odd here. As, someone else pointed out, you can't be "kicked out" of public school. They are required to provide your child with an appropriate education.
Under certain circumstances, they can, but it has to be extreme and the behavior cannot be a manifestation of the child's disability (with his diagnosis, it would be difficult for the school to prove that any behavior wasn't a manifestation of his disabilities). If the behavior is a manifestation of the disability, then the school can long term suspend a student, but must provide home-bound tutoring.


To put it another way, after a long process including a functional behavior assessment, a school can determine that a student's "least restrictive environment" is at home, but then they still must provide all needed materials as well as tutoring each week by a certified teacher.


Here is a link to Wright's Law on manifestation hearings and what the school is obligated to do:
http://www.wrightslaw.com/nltr/13/nl.1203.htm


I would do some research and make sure that the school has followed the law, and if they haven't been perfect, I would file for a due process hearing. It is possible to get a district to pay for private school, but it isn't easy, and it usually involves going to court.
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