This hasn't been addressed yet, to the best of my knowledge, but I am the parent of a special needs kid -- she's 2.5, but it's pretty obvious that she's different.
I was just browsing the message board for her birthday month and year, and all the other moms are bragging joyfully and wonderfully about their kids' achievements -- learning colors, counting to 10, beginning to potty train -- and I feel as if I can't contribute anymore because I'm sure they would think I was bragging or trying to put their own kids' achievements down. They're nice people, so of course I don't want to do that.
Moreover, the reactions I have received from friends and relatives to our dd's achievements have been rather hostile and suspicious.
Rather than being supportive, they've referred to her as a "monster" we are somehow "creating" (the implication being that we must surely duct-tape her to a potty chair until she spits out what the chief export of Albania is, or whatever)
, and we've also heard the BS about how "all kids even out by third grade" and "why won't you let her be a child?" (although we have explained it's not a matter of "letting" her "be" anything other than who or what SHE wants to be).
In short, I've begun to feel kind've excluded from friends and family other than giving the usual generic updates on the phone about how she's fine, she's growing, she loves riding a trike, et cetera. Moreover, I've begun to wonder whether or not I'd have a lot in common with moms of other special kids -- probably many of whom have to deal with some of the same irritating cr*p. So yeah, I'd like a special board. Thanks for letting me vent.