Originally Posted by blessedwithboys
This is actually a disadvantage. Parents are parents and peers are friends. Your child would need you to act like an adult. If your plan is to act like a child with your child, you are not ready to be a parent. This is true as well for persons who do not have autism.
If you are unable to go without a caretaker because you are unable to protect yourself from danger, you are in no way capable of being a parent.
Again, this doesn't mean all persons with autism should refrain from procreating. But it does very much sound like you are not up to the task.
Can you look for some volunteer opportunities in your area that your caretaker could take you to? How well do you read? Maybe you could read to a kindy class. Or volunteer with an after-school group at a Y or Boys' and Girls' Club? Or pair up with a Big Brother and sort of be the "Middle Brother" who goes along on visits with the Little Brother? These are possible option for you to enjoy time with children without assuming a lifelong responsibility you are not prepared to handle.
Thank you very much. The answers I've got has made me sad a bit
but you people are truly lovely and I do adore children lots and I want to at least do something in my life that helps children. I don't want to change my entire personality to became a parent and that makes me sad
Also didn't Jesus say that we must become little children to enter heaven?
(I'm not a super religious person. Just was saying as an example) and I'm a very childlike person. All the kids in my family love me and I love to play with them. My younger cousins actually fight over who gets to play with me and I honestly hate how strict adults can be with kids
So maybe being a parent isn't for me
I probably couldn't watch as many cartoons or my other hobbies if I had a child anyway
1. Am I still welcome on this site even though I'm not suitable to be a parent?
Please Please please let me stay here? The other sites have to many harsh parents who believe in things that upset me
This site is the most gentle one I've seen
2. Is it really bad that I'd rather be a nice childlike parent than a strict boring one? All the kids in my family are obsessed with me and they fight over playing with me. I have a 7 year old cousin who asks to play with me everyday
I truly believe that children are the absolute best thing in this whole universe and I would never want to be strict on them
3. Instead of becoming a parent can I instead become a hero to children someday? What can I do for kids in my life and still keep my own personality without becoming a parent? I want to be a person kids look up to
I adore them and if I'm not suitable to be a parent then what other options can I have that will let me keep being myself but still help children somehow? I want to be remembered as a person that made kids happy
Also I want to be a superhero and stop child abuse