I'm a frequent lurker in this forum but just today have worked up the nerve to post
I'm having a lot of concerns about my middle child and dh and I have finally decided that we really do want to talk to somebody about him.
I scheduled an appointment with our doctor (who is a family practice doctor and sees me and all three children) that was supposed to be on Friday, but her office called to reschedule for two weeks from now
It really frustrated me a lot because I'm very concerned about my son.
I ended up calling early intervention today and was referred to my school district because ds is turning 3 in June. The lady I spoke with at early intervention seemed a little grumpy I called. When she asked why I was calling I told her it was because ds doens't make eye contact or talk to people other than family and very close adult friends and he withdraws from other people -- and she just sort brushed that off when I told her he's not in daycare. There's a lot more going on with him besides just that but she just cut me off there and told me to call the school district.
I called the district and spoke to their evaluation coordinator, told her the same things about ds and she said that she'd schedule him for a group evaluation. They only do them monthly in the summer so I have to wait about 3 weeks for the next one. She told me they'll do standard hearing and vision checks, and then they'll have a team to do developmental checks too.
Ok I had to say all that above because it's really weighing on my mind and I need to tell *somebody* besides dh, who though concerned about ds too seems to think that I'm overreacting.
But my question is how should I prepare for the doctor's visit in two weeks and the evaluation in 3 weeks? I have a list of concerns that I've been compiling for the doctor (no eye contact, going into a "shell," horrible tantrums, hand flapping, agression that he doesn't seem to understand, etc). Is there anything else I should take?
Like I said I've been reading the threads here for awhile, and as was suggested in another post I sent off the questionaire from the autism research institute, and we've gotten the results of that back. Should I take that to the doctor or just wait? I feel like I should just wait and see what she says. My husband and I are planning to go to the doctor's appointment together so we can both talk to the doctor.
For the evaluation by the district I was planning to leave the baby and our older DD with dh so that I can take ds alone. What should we expect. Will I be able to stay with him? Should I take or prepare anything? The person from the district told me it takes about an hour. She said group evaluation but I'm not sure how many other children to expect. ds does not really do well with other children. She told me there would be hearing and vision screening, as well as speech evals (he speaks pretty well but I'm not completely convinced he'll be willing to speak during the eval)
I'm going to get rambly if I go on, so much on my mind. If anyone has any insight I would really appreciate it. Part of me thinks that I'm too worried and that everyone is just going to tell me that he is normal and just quirky and shy. But part of me worries. I want to be prepared...
I scheduled an appointment with our doctor (who is a family practice doctor and sees me and all three children) that was supposed to be on Friday, but her office called to reschedule for two weeks from now
I ended up calling early intervention today and was referred to my school district because ds is turning 3 in June. The lady I spoke with at early intervention seemed a little grumpy I called. When she asked why I was calling I told her it was because ds doens't make eye contact or talk to people other than family and very close adult friends and he withdraws from other people -- and she just sort brushed that off when I told her he's not in daycare. There's a lot more going on with him besides just that but she just cut me off there and told me to call the school district.
I called the district and spoke to their evaluation coordinator, told her the same things about ds and she said that she'd schedule him for a group evaluation. They only do them monthly in the summer so I have to wait about 3 weeks for the next one. She told me they'll do standard hearing and vision checks, and then they'll have a team to do developmental checks too.
Ok I had to say all that above because it's really weighing on my mind and I need to tell *somebody* besides dh, who though concerned about ds too seems to think that I'm overreacting.
But my question is how should I prepare for the doctor's visit in two weeks and the evaluation in 3 weeks? I have a list of concerns that I've been compiling for the doctor (no eye contact, going into a "shell," horrible tantrums, hand flapping, agression that he doesn't seem to understand, etc). Is there anything else I should take?
Like I said I've been reading the threads here for awhile, and as was suggested in another post I sent off the questionaire from the autism research institute, and we've gotten the results of that back. Should I take that to the doctor or just wait? I feel like I should just wait and see what she says. My husband and I are planning to go to the doctor's appointment together so we can both talk to the doctor.
For the evaluation by the district I was planning to leave the baby and our older DD with dh so that I can take ds alone. What should we expect. Will I be able to stay with him? Should I take or prepare anything? The person from the district told me it takes about an hour. She said group evaluation but I'm not sure how many other children to expect. ds does not really do well with other children. She told me there would be hearing and vision screening, as well as speech evals (he speaks pretty well but I'm not completely convinced he'll be willing to speak during the eval)
I'm going to get rambly if I go on, so much on my mind. If anyone has any insight I would really appreciate it. Part of me thinks that I'm too worried and that everyone is just going to tell me that he is normal and just quirky and shy. But part of me worries. I want to be prepared...