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Well, dd started preschool when she was 3. She went 2 1/2 hrs a day. She did 2 years of that (therapy being during those hours too).
For kindergarten she did 2 years (of kindergarten) at a private school for kids with and without disabilities. They were awesome.
1st grade we had to find a new school and there was nothing private that suited her. We found a charter school that a lot of people talked about. She did 1st and 2nd grade there and I regret both years, but mostly the last one.
With dd's issues I never wanted to HS because I needed the break and help.
The end of the second grade year dd's behavior started getting out of control and over the summer I started stressing with having to do it all over again the next year. I volunteered 2 to 3 times a week at the school so I was nearby. I had to come every day at noon to cath' her anyway, because I didn't want strange nurses doing it. And as her behavior got worse I was there more and more.
We lived about 40 min (in traffic) from her school (25 min. without traffic).
Over time I realized that her emotional health was more important then her academics. I still struggle with this today, but it has gotten better. It is hard to have to decide between what you see as her emotional health over her being behind academically.
I am now convinced that she would have been better off staying home long ago...or at least only doing half days.
DD is 10 and last year was our first year HS'ing. Obviously that is stressful for me too, but dd has improved in SO many ways that I never thought possible.
(by the way, dd is delayed in general, with the primary diagnosis being Spina Bifida and Hydrocephalus. She also has ADHD, nonverbal LD, anxiety disorder with specific phobias, sensory integration disorder, and maybe something else I'm forgetting)
Her anxiety has lowered so much I never would have imagined and her acting out behavior is way way better.
The school environment was just too overwhelming for her.
IMHO, I would stay where you are and just do half days for school. With all the experiences I have had with different schools, teachers, therapists, etc.-- if you have it good now you should make that the priority. You don't want to end up having your dc in a less than desirable environment and then having to move them again. Obvioulsy this will happen sometimes anyway, but if you don't have to, don't do it.
He is still young and getting all the therapy he needs and the interaction with other kids and getting used to a classroom, etc.
I say play it safe. There are way too mnay variables with new teachers and therapists and if it's not a good match---well that would suck. You already have a good match so stick with it I say.
Good luck with your decision.
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