You women are amazing - I'm just so happy to get these leads. I felt totally lost and frustrated...I feel like time is passing us up, and he is just getting further and further behind.
Mamaverdi - thank you for those panels, I'm printing out and taking to the ped.
Here is a more detailed history:
Birth: quick, uncomplicated waterbirth. poor latch, didn't really know how to suck. we worked with him on his latch, and finally by day 3 he figured it out.
Day Four: He had some apnea episodes where he turned blue, and went limp. We went to the hospital and did an overnight study that revealed nothing. He continued to have some choking/gagging issues while nursing that I chalk up to oversupply issues.
Month three: First nursing strike. We too did the feed while sleeping thing, that was the only way to get him to eat. It lasted a couple of days. He has always refused a bottle. He started being REALLY picky about how/where he would eat.
His growth really slowed down around month three, just seemed to plateau. I think he gained like 1 oz in a month, it was frightening. Since then he is gaining, but very very slowly. A month ago (around month 10) he gained 12 ozs in one week when we went onto a "schedule" of three solid meals a day, but then he stopped gaining after those two weeks. I don't know what is up with that.
Sleep: terrible. Up sometimes every hour crying. He snores. Loudly. It actually keeps me awake. Sometimes he has great nights, but I can't put it together as to why it is so unpredictable. He is often tired & cranky, he just seems subdued. Not all the time, but fairly often.
I'm trying to remember if there is anything else.