Someone recommended this book
I had some very high hopes but its really not meeting our needs so far. dd meets 19 things on the list for her self-test so I'm fairly sure its pretty accurate.
In particular these are the things I checked off for her:
complains about scratchy clothing, seams in socks, or labels against his/her skin. (only some items, usually its texture related)
learns better from a gentle correction than strong punishment.
seems to read my mind.
uses big words for his/her age. (started reading at 3.5 and has always been very verbal)
notices the slightest unusual odor.
has a clever sense of humor.
seems very intuitive.
is hard to get to sleep after an exciting day.
wants to change clothes if wet or sandy. (has issues with things that don't feel right and has since an infant)
asks lots of questions.
is a perfectionist. (gets very easily upset if she can't do something right the first time and will give up)
notices the distress of others.
asks deep, thought-provoking questions.
is very sensitive to pain.
is bothered by noisy places.
considers if it is safe before climbing high.
performs best when strangers aren't present.
feels things deeply.
The beginning of the book that explains what HSC are was very interesting and I definitely found dd in the descriptions and stories.
I was eager to understand more and get to the chapters for age specific parenting suggestions. But the entire chapter for toddlers/preschoolers is nearly limited to helping your child deal with new situations and transitioning from one place to another. dd does not have problems with this.
According to the book HSCs make up 15-20% of the population with 70% being introverts. dd is definitely an extrovert.
I need solutions on how to get her to do the things we ask her to do without whining. How to help her not cry as a first response to anything negative (not wanting to go somewhere, not getting something, time for a nap, etc).
As an infant dd was often very overstimulated but now she likes going new places and gets very excited by it. In fact a lot more excited than most kids and it results in a physical display (shaking of her hands in a specific manner and a particular expression on her face combined with breathlessness).
The best I can figure she is an extrovert HSC. Are there any good resources that you know of?
I really need help to be a better parent to her. The chapter on how to parent if you are not sensitive is helpful to me (since I'm the one with the problem and need to learn to be more patient) but I need to know the best way to approach her and what kind of discipline works best.