My stepson is 8 1/2 and he has been diagnosed with some kind of disorder. His mom told my husband it was bipolar, ADHD, and ODD. Lately, she has been telling people its only ADHD. However, I read The Bipolar Child and he totally fits the diagnosis and the descriptions of these children. My problem is that my husband picks his son up at his own mother's house and drives him an hour to out house for the day. A few times he had his meds with him. Recently, he does not have his meds with him and says that his mother said he doesnt need it. It is obvious that he has not been given his morning meds by his abnormal and out of control behavior.
My husband and his son's mother have a horrible relationship and when he attempts to speak with her about his son's issues the coversation always ends up being about him being a bad father as the source of this child's problems. I dont know what to do. I have an infant daughter and the last time my stepson was here he was out of it. He was yelling at my daughter not to look at him and telling her to "look at the blood instead" (blood being a bottle of ketchup). He is also very mean, calling everyone an idiot and retarded. Saying that animals are pathetic and stupid. Its his normal converstaional style to say that he is going to kill someone, And he does this frequently. My husband has tried for years to stop this behavior, but seeing that he only has visitation twice a month, its a futile effort. I try to stay away as much as possible, but my daughter is 7 months old and she needs to be home to eat and nap.
I dont know what to do. My husband is court ordered to see his son. He finds it difficult to take him places because he is out of control without his medicine. He has no legal custody. The son's mother won't tell my husband who the doctor is, what the medication is, the diagnosis, etc. What the heck should we do?? Please help, I dont think I can take this much longer.