My ds is 8 almost 9 and he's been violent outbursts, hitting other kids at school, threating to stab his teacher, repeatidly kicking an aide (all happened last Thursday, but have happened seperatly before). When he doesn't get what he wants his first response is anger, yelling growling threatening, slamming doors.
This morning he attacked me because he was tired and didn't want to get ready for school. I ended up having to pin him down on the floor to get him to stop
We have a 2 year old and two 8 month olds in the house.
DS has an asperger's dx, has weekly therapy, and a meds nurse (he's on concerta and trileptal). DH talked to the meds nurse this morning and she thinks ds might have to go to a live in facility. That's really not what I want but I don't know what to do, if he can hurt me what if he turns violent on the little ones? Meds lady said to keep him away from children and animals unsupervised for the time being; he has an appmnt with her this afternoon. She's going to try to get ahold of his therapist and talk to some other people that she knows.
I feel like a big part of his outburt today (and just about every Mon) is because he spends the weekends with his father he well, lets him do what ever he wants. Ds stays up until 10 sometimes 11pm gets up when he wants, has no chores and pretty much gets to do whatever he wants with no responsibilty or punishments. DS's father says that ds doesn't understand what he's doing so he should be punished when he does something wrong and we should just give him whatever he wants to keep him happy. Also becuase no, or very little, outbursts happen at his house that it must be something that we're doing here.
I don't know what to do. DH is in favor of sending ds to the hospital, I was this morning but for an evual maybe a couple of days inpatient but not a live in. DS is becoming dangerous and everyone is at their wits end her so things can escalate pretty quickly.
Anyone have any ideas? suggestions?
ds is with mil right now, she was a special ed aide and worked with a kid with asperger's (a non-violent asperger's kid) for years.
I know I can refuse to put him in a live in facility but how do you know if its the best thing for him? What can I do to keep him from getting so out of control?
eta: one of the twins has been sick, in the hospital a couple of times and has to go to a lot of dr's visits. We have been very concerned about him and his health and some of the stuff with ds#1 did get put on the back burner for a few months,which I'm sure didn't help any. So I don't know if that is affecting him too. The baby is doing much better btw