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Old 12-30-2007, 05:43 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm having my baby tomorrow (planned c/s). I have been having panic attacks all week in the middle of the night. I have HUGE anxiety over this, and HUGE guilt, of course .

Just pray/light a candle/whatever that ds handles this humongous transition as well as he can, and that I handle this huge transition as well as I can. Ds has been my only baby for almost 4 years now, he and I are sooooooooo attached to eachother, I just cannot wrap my head around another child being here, never mind the whole autism aspect of it thrown into the mix. :

So anyway, just keep us in your prayers, especially my sweet ds, whom I adore and love so much and am so very very worried about.
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Old 12-30-2007, 05:48 PM
 
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Oh hun,

Blessings on your birth.

Blessings on you.

Blessings on your son.

Blessings on this new little baby.

Blessings on your whole family.


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I remember having some very similar feelings when ds was 17 months and we were bringing home his new (6 month old) little sister. It's hard to throw a whole new person into a family dynamic. I know its tough, but try to trust. Somehow or another, it will be okay. (By the way, a lot of the time ds really gets a kick out of his sister.)

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Oh, Finch. Hugs for you. I promise you that your fears and anxiety are way bigger than what will actually be. I had anxiety the whole time I was pregnant with DS2. I kept thinking, "Oh, God! What have I done?" Then DS2 came along and I'm soo glad he's here. Ezra has benefitted so much from having a sibling - he's learning to have a relationship with him, he plays with him, has to negotiate when he doesn't like something he does. Also, it's helped us to not focus too much on Ezra, which I think has been a blessing for him. It's so easy with a child with SN to get too obsessive (well, it is for me, anyway), and DS2 has relieved him of some of that.

He will remain your baby, I promise. He might even get closer with your husband, too. That's what happened for us. Whatever happens, it will be OK. Will probably be better than OK. I truly truly promise you that. And remember that those hormones are definitely contributing to your feelings right now too.
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Here is hoping he surprises you and does really well
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s This will be me in three-weeks time so I'll be taking notes on how your transition goes. I really pray you have as smooth a transition as possible and a joyous birth.
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Hugs and prayers your way!

If it helps:

90% of what we worry about will never happen and the other 10% we couldn't change even if we knew it would!

I hope your birth and bonding are spectacular!!

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Here's to a smooth transition!
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Been thinking about you for awhile, already! I will most definitely think of you tomorrow and the following days. I am sure your new child will be a blessing to all of you.

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You and he will both weather this. I hope you have good help lined up for the first couple of weeks, and we'll pray that ds sleeps well for you, so you can recover as much as your new little one will let you.

If it helps, a cousin of mine has a son with autism who is 4 years older than his brother, and while it was difficult at times, they are now 6 and 10, and get along together very well, and they're both good for each other!

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Sending prayers and good thoughts your way! I hope everything goes MUCH smoother than you could ever imagine possible and that everyone weathers the transition beautifully.

Best wishes also for a wonderful birth with speedy healing - enjoy your new little babe!

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I will be thinking of you.

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Your fears are worse than what reality will be. Trust me. I hope the transition goes smoothly for both you. You'd be amazed at the capacity to love and give attention... there will be plenty to go around for your little ones. I'll be thinking of you! May you have a joyous birth and a speedy recovery period!

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You are in my thoughts and heart, Finch.

secular classical-ish mama to an incredible 5 year old DS and an amazing 6 year old DD.
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And wishing you a beautiful birth and joyous transition into the new year, with your ds and new little one.
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Old 12-30-2007, 09:16 PM - Thread Starter
 
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And remember that those hormones are definitely contributing to your feelings right now too.


You guys are so awesome. I'm all teary. Thank you all so much, your words really do help.

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Good luck!

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Goodluck tomorrow! You'll be in our thoughts!

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I'll be thinking of you! I can't believe it's time already!!! It seems like you just told us all you're pregnant.
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I'll be thinking of you and your family, including your new addition. Blessings.
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I will keep you all in my thoughts. My younger child is a blessing to ds1 and pushes him so much. I am glad that we had him quickly though because we had pretty much no clue that ds1 was autistic when ds2 was conceived.

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Wishing you strength and calm.
You can handle this with the grace that you've handled so much else.

Blessings to your family!
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He will remain your baby, I promise. He might even get closer with your husband, too. That's what happened for us. Whatever happens, it will be OK. Will probably be better than OK. I truly truly promise you that. And remember that those hormones are definitely contributing to your feelings right now too.
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Be prepared that you may feel worse before you feel better, with pp hormones and all the adjusting to the new dynamics. But it really will even out.
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Here is my mantra:

All is Well. Everything is unfolding toward my highest Self. Out of this situation only Awareness and Joy will unfold. We are Safe.


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