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#1 of 3 Old 08-28-2003, 03:29 PM - Thread Starter
 
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to keep friends??

I have a really hard time maintaining and keeping friendships. It seems that they don't understand the difficulties and sacrficies we have to make having a special needs child. I don't have a lot of time to myself let alone doing things with friends. I also realize that some of it is my fault - I tend to think that they worry over things that are so silly. I guess with my DD's health problems I have found that somethings are not worth wasting my energy worrying about. And I am sure I talk a lot about my DD, but I do try to make an effort to not discuss her all the time and talk about them. Most friendships start off great, but then it seems to fizzle fast. Maybe I am too needy. I really do miss not having friends anymore. Thank goodness I have my husband.

Any advice or personal experiences????

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I also find it hard to start, keep and develop friendships. Oh well.
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I have *never* had many friends. Usually only one or two at a time. I was okay with that.
Nowadays it's pretty much just me and my husband.
But I do *wish* I had local friends... or even jsut one or two :-)
But it seems like it takes *way* too much energy.
I went to a coffee-group meeting for other moms of 3 year olds recently. I felt *so* out of place. Like a Martian, or something.

I did meet one other mom there who I clicked with, and she felt the same.
Come to find out, we both have special needs kids, and both were raised by abusive moms. So we were happy to find one another, and it looked like a promising start to a good friendship, but now she's *moving*!

I also have Asperger's syndrome, so a lot of times I just find it a lot easier to keep in touch with people online. I don't get all confused by the face-to-face interaction, and can concentrate more on the actual communication.

It helps, but it's not like having a friend you can actually hang out with.
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