Congrats and welcome! When are your babies due?
For me, the EZ pillow (foam version from www.doubleblessings.com
) was absolutely necessary and completely worth every penny. I would have paid three times as much for it. It was essential. Don't get any other kind of pillow, there are some out there with similar names, so it can get confusing. For me, the ability to nurse both babies at once was important because I wanted to be able to nurse them both on demand, and they both demanded to nurse a lot. They would nurse for at least 45 minutes every two hours. That pillow went everywhere with us.
My mom came to visit the week before my babies were born and cooked up a whole bunch of casserolls that we stuck in the freezer. This was really great. I would not have been able to make them myself in the state I was in (my babies weighed almost 15 pounds combined, and I was HUGE). We also did the take-out thing quite a bit. Whenever anyone called wanting to come and visit, we would ask them to bring dinner. It worked out really well.
In terms of equipment, two slings were key. My babies didn't like strollers until they were about 6 months old, but at that point a twin stroller was handy on really hot days. Now I usually sling one baby and put the other in a single umbrella stroller.
We did have two swings, and it would have been very hard to not have had at least one. I was originally anti-swing, but it was often the only way to get to eat breakfast, or have any sort of baby-free moment.
Co-sleeping has been another essential for us. I can't imagine having to get up out of bed that many times a night! We got a king-sized mattress and put it on the floor. My babies nap on the mattress together during the day (they sleep much better when snuggled up next to each other).
RE: cloth diapers, we have 26 and wash them every other day. I would like to have more, our stash is still in progress since we used a diaper service for the first few months.
If I think of anything else, I'll post again!