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#1 of 68 Old 06-22-2009, 01:46 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I hate reading the negative posts and I can't believe that I'm now posting one myself, but I just thought I'd post and let everyone know that I won't be around much longer and probably need to mover to another area. I'm not even sure where I'm suppose to go now, but will figure it out at some point in time. Anyways, this past Sat. at a little over 22 wks i started having contractions and then my water broke and my body wouldn't stop even after getting a shot to stop the contractions, it just must not have been ment to be. I just have to believe there is a reason for everything and there is a reason for this as well. So we try to pick up the pieces which is not easy and now we have to make crazy decisions about what to do with the ashes of our boys and things you just never think you will have to deal with at this time in your life with your first pregnancy. It is so hard to even imagine after it took us almost 3 yrs to get pregnant in the first place. Thanks to all of you that have shared advice and answered my twin questions thus far. I don't know what I would do without this site and you ladies!!!!!

After 5 failed IUI's & 6 failed IVF's we threw in the towel w/ ART and then got a NATURAL miracle BFP! Hoping and praying it is finally our take home baby!  Mother to our twins boys in heaven -lost at 22.5wks on 6/20/09 and 1 other little angel in heaven.

Our Miracle has arrived... Caden James...

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.

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I'm so, so very sorry for your loss.

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My heart is breaking for you!!!!!!!! I'm so very sorry for your loss!

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I'm so sorry honey. You guys are in my thoughts and prayers.
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I am so sorry for the loss of your babies....

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so very sorry for your loss.

Mama to DD (10/8/08) and expecting someone new in November!
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I am so sorry.

Sandra SAHM to Kayleigh and welcoming Emily January 2010
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I'm so sorry for your losses.

Ruth, single mommy to Leah, 19, Hannah, 18, and Jack, 12
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Oh momma. So sorry to hear about your boys. I think everyone here has a lot of sympathy for your situation, and would be happy to talk you through what you must be feeling. There is another Loss forum too you might look at when you're ready. What a sad time.


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I have no other words than I'm so, so sorry.

Karen - spouse to dh for 11 years, mama to ds (Nov '02), dd (May '05) and ds and dd (Jun '08)

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I am so, so sorry. I am thinking about you during this difficult time.

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i'm so sorry. your family will be in our thoughts.

Mama to Jet 6/05, Marvel 8/06 and Cash and Fox 2/09
Expecting Ada Marianne 11/14
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praying strength for you to get through this.
i'm so sorry for the loss of your precious boys and for the loss of the pregnancy

i hope you can find support and a drop of hope and comfort here:
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...splay.php?f=22

another twin mama lost her babies not so long ago at a similar gestation. i'm sorry i can't remember her screen name, but you could try searching the forum when you're ready

wish we could surround you with love so you can feel it.

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I am so very sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength.
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I am so sorry for your loss.

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The more you know, the worse it gets.

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I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my previous twins at 12 wks and the pain was tremendous. The loss forum is definately helpful. I will keep you in my thoughts...

When the time comes...the ttc after loss forum wasn't near as helpful as the infertility forum as women move in and out relatively quickly. However, the birth loss is full of support.

J A with DD1 7/06, lost twins 9/08
DD2 12/09 & DS1 12/09
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My heart is just breaking for you


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I am so sorry

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Oh my goodness, I am so deeply and profoundly sad about the loss of your beautiful boys. You are in my thoughts.

SAHM to F & P, : fraternal twins born 3/05, : I, born 12/07 & at 5 weeks in July 2009
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I'm in tears. I'm so incredibly sorry.
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Oh Mama
I am so tremendously sorry for you and your family....
Thinking of you...

wbg...constantly amazed by Z , cherishing I , inspired by P , adoring K and still getting butterflies when I wake up with B !
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I am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. I hope you have good support while you are healing, and that better days are ahead for you and your family.

Betsy, mama to beautiful, strong MZ twins Lillian and Kate, born 11 weeks early on January 10, 2006.
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I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Be gentle with yourself and allow lots of time for healing.

Mama to DS 10/06, DD & DS 08/09
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I am so very sorry for your loss.

Leah- wife to Chris : SAHM to Henry (03/06)and to Evelyn : (06/08). She is our heart attack survivor at 3.5 weeks and went on to have open heart surgery at 5 weeks for Coarctation of the Aorta.
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