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My triplets are 2.5 and my brother's twins are 5. I have a 6 year old as well.
I have noticed that once the multiples get older, there are some things that are easier as they play together and don't require so much adult time.
Two kids of different ages is a different kind of challenge than two kids the same age. Scheduling and choice of activities is tough with a big age gap between kids.
From observing my friends with older multiples, there are clearly some multiples-related issues that continue to be issue as multiples age, but the older kids get, the more it seems like the number of kids is more of an issue than whether they are the same age or not. But, I don't see that happening until the kids are school aged.
I don't have a singleton but I think that it is just different.
I see a lot of my friends having their second about now and I cannot imagine having children at different stages. I mean dealing w/ a 22 month old and a 4 year old is different than having two 22 month olds.
So. . . I think it would be safe to say that twins is harder than having one child. But after a person has more than one child the apples are harder to juggle no matter if it is multiples or singletons.
In your sil's defense, having two newborns was hard (think 2x the bf, 2x the nightwakings, 2x the diaper changes) and let me tell you (refer to a recent thread I started) two toddlers is tricky. Beyond that, I don't know.
(I'm not saying this in a snippy tone, sorry if it comes off that way)
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I only have twins, but I have always believed that, as difficult as the first two years were, it was a lot easier to have twins than babies a couple of years (or less) apart. Juggling the very different needs (sleep schedules, feeding schedules, activity levels) of a preschooler and a baby sounds tons harder to me
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particularly if she b'feeds and AP's to the extent the she can with two babies.
she's lucky to have you for company btw. the first year in particular can be lonely and overwhelming and so full of uncertainty. she'll need lots of reassurance and encouragement that she is up to the job. and company. and someone to juggle a baby when she falls flat.
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