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Argh! This part of having twins is so frustrating! Honestly, if I could do it over again, I would never have consented to the first ultrasound.
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Anyone do this successfully? As of last ultrasound, both twins were breech. I'm now around 30 weeks.
Unfortunately, I am seeing an OB group that does not like to do a vaginal birth even if A is vertex and B is breech. I feel like I should have quizzed them on their policy sooner, and now I am not sure if another provider would take me at this point. Earlier in pregnancy, they were both head-down, so it wasn't an issue. This was never an issue with my singletons, either, who were vertex and stayed that way. Others, including DH, don't understand why I wouldn't just have a C-section and be done with it. The only explanation that I have gotten from the OB group is that "turning Baby B doesn't always work out so well." When I asked about pulling out feet-first, she said that the head may get stuck.... Personally, I think they're more worried about their own liability than trying to get the birth that the patient wants.
I'm just not looking forward to the whole thing--esp. not looking forward to being in the hospital an extra day that a C-section would require. I hate being in the hospital and I hate the idea of having to "recover" from a birth. Of course I know that I will need some rest, but I have two other young children and don't have time to be down. Truthfully, I would love to just give birth at home in my bathtub and be done with it, but at this point, I don't see that I could get anyone to attend to it, and I don't want a totally unassisted birth.
And a final rant - this twin pregnancy has been really hard -- not physically, really, but mentally. I just still haven't really "accepted" it, I don't think, and can't seem to get past the idea that it's not what I wanted, not what I expected, and not what I will be able to handle well. I know these negative thoughts aren't serving me well, and maybe it's all the hormones that are bringing about these feelings of depression and regret. I'm trying to do natural things to improve upon this (fish oil, B vitamins, exercise), and I'm just hoping that it somehow gets better after they were born. Anyone else find that their twin pregnancy was much harder, mentally, than a single pregnancy? Thanks for listening!