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#31 of 40 Old 01-31-2010, 10:43 PM
 
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Wanted to come back and add some things that could be useful seeing as my last comment was just a yeah this is hard comment.

When the girls were little and would wake up to nurse, I would take the EZ 2 Nurse pillow out on the couch and nurse them both. So if one baby woke, I'd grab the other one, too, b/c it took them about 45 minutes to get a full feeding and back to sleep and I wouldn't want to stagger them since they would generally nurse every 2 hours. I would watch tv on the lowest volume. I eventually got headphones with a long cord. I would watch silly shows and movies and that would keep me pretty happy. I would have my cell phone and call my dh in the next room to come get them when they had fallen asleep and he would come and take them back to bed one by one.

They were too small to nurse side lying. I don't think I mastered the side lying until their heads were a bit bigger. Around 5 mos or so?

We also went through a swing phase during which it was incredibly useful.

I agree that it is one of the hardest things I have ever done. The exhaustion of nursing twin newborns is unimaginable to those who haven't btdt. It's just so hard when it is all on mama in so many ways!

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Ladies, I am seriously about to lose my mind here.

How on Earth did you make it through this? Last night was literally the worst night ever. Every single night seems to go worse than the night before. Last night we were in bed at 8pm and I still only got one hour of broken sleep. One. hour. They just wanted to nurse all night long. Of the 10 hours spent in the bed, I had someone attached to my breast for 9.5 hours. The other half hour was spent changing diapers.

I just can't do this. I can't nurse them both together. It gives me a creepy-crawly feeling.

This is just awful.
I know just what you mean about tandem nursing just being too much stimulation all at once. I hate doing it.

I have resorted to giving the girls bottles at night to help me get some sleep. It takes me less than 45 minutes to diaper-feed-burp-and put back in bed while if I was nursing them, the cycles would take me well over 2 hours. By that time, it was time to start all over again. They still get breast milk in the bottles.

I have had to pump right from the start. Anna had latch issues and wasn't nursing properly and my milk production was dropping drastically already right after it came in. I am having to pump exclusively right now for the second time since they were born because we are all battling thrush AGAIN! We seem to be passing it back and forth right now but I am hoping with just pumping until everyone is cleared up - we can get back to nursing soon.

I don't know that I will ever be able to nurse Anna effectively since she always seems famished even right after she nurses. She just doesn't get anything. We met with a lactation consultant that was great but I just don't think that Anna is catching on to what she needs to do to get more milk.

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Well. . . I'm sure it helped that I (always) sleep like I'm dead. My body's overwhelming bend on sleep completely overrides being in a less-than-favourite position or whatever.

I noticed a marked change in the nights around 4-5 weeks, I think it was.

With my older kids, I always just rolled to whatever side, latched baby on, and resumed sleeping. With the older kids, it was really only the first week or so before they were pros at this.

The twins were a few pounds smaller than my other kids, and slower to get the hang of this. Also, too much need for nursing at exactly the same time in the early weeks.

When they frequently awoke hungry, but were still small and floppy, I would arrange and huge pile of pillows in bed so I was semi-sitting, but with my head fully supported like in a recliner. I made pillows across my front for the new twins (didn't have my EZ-2-Nurse pillow until later). I always used the double football hold. Then I just pretty much conked out from over-tiredness.

It worked fine and in a month or so they could nurse side-lying, so then I just spent the night rolling over from one to the other as needed and sleeping was easier.

Mostly, I just kept rejoicing that the pregnancy was over and WE HAD TWINS!! That seemed to smooth over a lot.

Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. I know I was exhausted b/c if I layed down for a few minutes I fell asleep. But I never felt tired. That must make it a lot worse.

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I am right there with you mama, mine are 3 months and it's sooo hard. I have spent 2 evenings lying on my bathroom floor sobbing, "I can't do this, I just don't know what to do" over and over again...so bad dh called my mom to come over. It's so bad I can't seem to see the other side but I know it has to get better sometime.

I slept like Novella for the first 2 months and now I lay them next to me and nurse with one side lying and one slung over me. Some nights I don't even know which one I am nursing. I have also woken up looking for one of them only to find that she is latched and nursing on me. I have also looked for a third only to remember that there are only 2. It's nuts. I wish I had some advice but I haven't gotten there yet.

I have to agree that tandem is sorta icky feeling, too much stimulation. I tandem when I have to but prefer one at a time even if it means that much longer. All I can say is just hang in there, try swings, try anything.

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Dena, have you been checked for postpartum depression, Mama? Having twins is VERY hard but your post has me concerned it might be something just a little bit more. MoMs are at a higher risk of postpartum hormone issues, too.
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I have no words of wisdom, but I did want to say I'm SO there with you. My twins are three weeks old, and I have days where I feel ok, and others where I cry and cry and cry. Today is a good day, but writing this is making me cry...

((((hugs)))) Everyone says it gets better, and I'm just trying to get there! Some days, I wonder how I'll survive, but then. I try to remind myself that there are all these moms of twins who have survived... so I can too.

One thing that has helped, my husband watched the babies for 3 - 4 hours every night. I have to pump and supplement (and nurse) b/c of a bad start, so he just gives them bottles during that time. But even if you are nursing full time, he should be able to watch them for at least two hours, so you can get some rest. I get my sleep btwn 7 and 10 pm, b/c that's when dh is around to help.

My babies also will only sleep on my chest at night... and it annoys me sometimes, but I just want to SLEEP, so I doze on and off that way...

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Intertwined, thank you so much for asking I did have ppd with my son, for the entire first year but didn't realize it. My family has been watching closely and is concerned but I don't feel like I am depressed. Sure, I have had my breakdowns but I think it's normal???? At least I hope so. I feel mostly happy but what I really want right now is some consistancy. I am taking my motherwort though and a friend suggested lemon balm so I am going to get some of that. Thank you for the concern though, really, and we are keeping a close eye on it. Reading these threads makes me feel so much more normal because no one IRL gets it.

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Intertwined, thank you so much for asking I did have ppd with my son, for the entire first year but didn't realize it. My family has been watching closely and is concerned but I don't feel like I am depressed. Sure, I have had my breakdowns but I think it's normal???? At least I hope so. I feel mostly happy but what I really want right now is some consistancy. I am taking my motherwort though and a friend suggested lemon balm so I am going to get some of that. Thank you for the concern though, really, and we are keeping a close eye on it. Reading these threads makes me feel so much more normal because no one IRL gets it.

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I am glad to hear it. I just heard a ring of "something more" in your post. I've btdt with PPD as well. It's hard to 'read' someone online and I hesitated to post because I didn't want to offend you.

You're right, it IS harder and I think most of us MoMs experience a much more heightened postpartum distress period than moms of singletons. In my experience, anyway. Just keep an eye out that it doesn't roll over into depression, Mama.

Nummies, how you doing my friend? I've been thinking about you a lot. Give us a post that you're still alive and kicking We're all here to support you!
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I can't tell you how much I appreciate your concern. No offense taken at all. It's hard when you are in the midst of depression to realize that is what it is. It helps so much to *hang out* with other twin mamas.
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i slept sitting up, with the babies on the ez 2 nurse twin pillow, until they were about 3 months old. i used other pillows and blankets to make myself comfortable, called dh if i needed anything, and just slept in the chair. it actually worked out great and i got a ton of sleep!

also, when we started lying the babies down, we put them on their tummies. they slept better that way, so we went with it. we gradually transitioned to them sleeping off the nursing pillow (one in the co sleeper and one in a sleep nest on the table). between 3 and 4 months is when i got the least amount of sleep b/c they would both sleep short periods of time on their own and then i'd have them both in the bed with me.

now, at 4.5 months old, one is sleeping anywhere between 6 and 10 hours in the swing at night and the other one sleeps in the cosleeper next to me b/c he wakes up more often. so it does get better!

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