Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: in a state of love
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
spread a lot of love
I gave in to tandem feeding and found that if I did it when I was sleepy at night and lying down that it was much easier. Not to say that you should keep trying if you KNOW it's not for you, but just to say that I hated it too but did find times when it was easier.
How is it going with the pacifiers? How do you feel about expressing and someone else cup feeding/ bottle feeding? I know that seems drastic and is a big nono normally, but it depends what's happening for you. As a temporary measure it can work so long as you are watching supply and latch issues etc...
It really won't last forever, but it will last a bit longer. Get whatever help you can of whatever type. Try to dictate a list to someone who can coordinate things a bit.
It will get better. I promise. It's so very intense just right now, but it will get better
If you could make one change, what would it be?
I got an amby hammock and my fussier baby would spend sometime in that. I bought various gadgets second hand - get someone to trawl the net for affordable solutions that you can try out!!
Can you sleep in the daytime? How's it going with your other little one? Is anyone taking the pressure off you in the daytime? Are you managing to eat and drink ok? Snacking?
I HATED tandem nursing. It makes me feel like I am going to run away at any moment. HATED it.
Make sure you've got enough water going in. After your post about not feeling full and the constant nursing it makes me wonder if your supply is a little low-ish. Gallon of water going in daily, good foods in your tummy, getting rest when you can.
I don't know how I did it, I just did. It was EXHAUSTING in the worst sense of the word. I nearly got no sleep for the first six weeks of their life and then it got progressively easier until we started cutting teeth.
I wish we MoMs could all live in a big, nursing commune to keep each other going. Hang in there, it DOES get better.
I promise it will get better! You have to do whatever it takes to be sane. At about 3-4 months, I started handing the boys off to DH at 8pm. I went to bed, he took care of the babies until midnight or 1am. I got 4-5 hours of sleep. We were already suplementing with formula, so that was what he did IF they got hungry.
It turns out that they didn't need to eat as often with DH, something about being in the same room with me made them want to somfort nurse.
Things got better for a while, then worse, then better, then worse...with teething and growth spurts, and swine flu, and head colds.
One of the mamas on here said something to the effect of:
"Do whatever works, for as long as it works, then try something different."
I have that mantra printed out at home to look at. I also have this one written out:
"The days may drag on, but the years? The years fly by."