It's so hard when you're living through it!
Yes, I remember putting the twins in the stroller and walking with my then two year old around the block until her little legs tuckered out and needed to be carried in the sling. I remember being "stuck" pushing that stroller every day to get some peace and quiet. When the cold weather came, I was at Target almost every day walking laps since their aisles are so wide (nice for a double stroller) and it gave my older dd stuff to look at while the babies slept. I was like Norm entering the bar on Cheers when I went in there
AP with twins is not about doing everything like you would do with a singleton. Heck, even with two singletons, AP would mean different things with each of those babies. To me, a big part of AP is honoring what each little one needs, along with mama's needs.
You don't have to be perfect. No one is perfect. I used bouncy seats and those little portable swings (oh, how those little swings I could carry outside with me were wonderful
). AP with infant twins means defining those aspects of AP that are non-negotiable for you
and focusing on them. Which is sounds like you have done when you mention that you won't put them in their cribs at nap to cry.
And I know this is easier said than done when you're living it. But really, just block out those people who ask you what time you put them down, how long they sleep, etc. etc. It doesn't impact them, so they don't get an opinion about it.
Hang in there! You sound like a wonderfully loving AP mom to me! You're doing it! Even if it doesn't match how I did it or the other posters or the posters to come...you're doing AP with twins!