We weaned very gradually and they just became fully weaned a couple of months ago (they'll be 3 next month). I used distractions, water, snacks, snuggling while playfully saying "you silly, it's not time to nurse." When they were adament about nursing, I would nurse them, though. I didn't want it to be a fight. We replaced nursing to sleep with bedtime stories...lots of them and bedtime snacks and water. Sometimes they'd fall asleep after eating and we wouldn't brush again until morning which I know is a no no. One of the girls weaned with more ease than the other. I think she would have weaned sooner had her sister not been such an avid nurser. In the middle of the night I would just repeat "you silly, it's sleepy time, not nursing time. The puppies are asleep, the horsies are asleep...etc" We kept morning nursing for a while. Eventually they only nursed at La Leche League meetings. I'd begin by telling my friends "they're all weaned" only to have them nurse before the end of the meeting, but only briefly because the flavor had changed from nursing so seldom. I think we can help with the transition, but each kid is different and responds to weaning differently and wants to go at his or her own pace no matter what we do. Good luck.